What Three Near-Death Experiences Taught Michelle About Love and Suicide
Speaker, author, and certified medium Michelle Clare joins the conversation to share how three near-death experiences reshaped her intuition, deepened her connection to the angelic realm, and changed the way she understands grief, healing, and the human soul. Michelle reflects on messages from loved ones in spirit, angels, and lifeguides, including a powerful encounter with Mother Teresa, and explains how her background in Human Interaction Technology informs her work with clients seeking clarity and compassion. She also speaks candidly about the loss of her life partner, Gary, and how his continued presence in spirit helped redefine love beyond the physical world. Drawing from her books 101 Ways to Set Your Soul on Fire and 111 Angel Messages, Michelle offers grounded wisdom for navigating loss, awakening, and the quiet moments where meaning reveals itself.
IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL HEAR ABOUT THINGS LIKE:
- How near-death experiences can permanently alter intuition, awareness, and life direction.
- What spiritual communication actually feels like, and how to distinguish insight from imagination.
- How angels, lifeguides, and loved ones in spirit are perceived and interpreted in Michelle’s work.
- Why grief does not end relationships, but can transform how connection continues.
- How losing a life partner can deepen spiritual trust rather than diminish it.
- The ways emotional trauma and unprocessed loss imprint on the body and nervous system.
- How Human Interaction Technology bridges science, psychology, and spiritual awareness.
- Why spiritual gifts often emerge through hardship, crisis, or physical collapse.
- How to stay grounded while exploring intuition and expanded consciousness.
- What practical spiritual integration looks like in daily life, relationships, and decision-making.
SOME QUESTIONS IRENE ASKS MICHELLE:
- How did your 3 Near Death Experiences awaken new layers of insight within you?
- Can you please give us a view of what Heaven is like?
- Your life partner, Gary, died from suicide. What was the deepest moment of grief that changed you?
- In what ways did loving Garry – and then losing him – initiate a kind of rebirth within you?
- You received a profound message from Mother Teresa during a reading for a female nurse who had worked with her. Tell us about that.
- How does your background in Human Interaction Technology inform your work with clients seeking clarity and compassion?
- Were all the messages in 101 Ways to Set Your Soul on Fire channeled?
- How do our loved ones in Heaven stay connected to us who are still here on Earth?
- What truths about love, life and your own soul were revealed to you through the pain of Garry’s passing?
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What Three Near-Death Experiences Taught Michelle About Love and Suicide
Awakening the Soul Path: Michelle Clare’s Journey Into Mediumship
I am speaking to you from my studio in West Orange, New Jersey. I could not be more delighted to have the pleasure of welcoming Speaker, Author and Certified Medium, Michelle Clare, whose remarkable intuitive abilities are further enhanced and enriched by her certification in Human Interaction Technology, which deepens the understanding of the human soul and psyche.
Michelle’s impressive work has been featured on Coast to Coast AM, Amazon Prime, the Shift Network, and Gaia TV. As an angel intuitive, spiritual coach, medical intuitive, and energetic healer, Michelle weaves together profound intuitive wisdom with her compassionate, grounded presence. Her journey has been nothing short of remarkable. Over the course of eleven years, she survived three near-death experiences, each awakening her gifts in powerful ways and reshaping the course of her life.
Michelle serves as a bridge between worlds, delivering heartfelt messages from loved ones in spirit, angels, and lifeguides. Michelle is passionate about helping others uncover the meaning behind their challenges, offering guidance on soul plans, near-death and shared-death experiences, and even the tender, complex terrain surrounding suicide. Through her work, Michelle offers hope, healing, and a sacred invitation to remember who you truly are and why you are here.
I have had the joy of interviewing Michelle three times on the show. We are celebrating a beautiful new milestone. She has got two books now. I am going to be talking about her book, 101 Ways to Set Your Soul on Fire. She is also going to talk to us about her new book, which has dropped or is about to drop. This inspiring collection of daily messages serves as a gentle yet powerful guide for anyone navigating both the physical and spiritual dimensions of life.
I am looking forward to talking with Michelle, who is joining me from Phoenix, Arizona, about her three extraordinary near-death experiences, the profound grief that reshaped her life after the loss of her life partner, Gary, who passed away by suicide, and the ongoing connection with Gary that has guided her healing and rebirth.
We will also explore the profound message Michelle received from Mother Teresa, the uplifting daily inspirations in her book, 101 Ways to Set Your Soul on Fire, her transformative SEE Method, and so much more. This promises to be an enlightening and deeply inspiring conversation. It will be rich with spiritual insight and a heartfelt tribute to Michelle’s journey through grief, healing, and renewal. A journey that beautifully embodies the mission and spirit of the show.
Michelle, I want to jump on Zoom and give you a big hug. A warm welcome back to the show.
Thank you so much, Irene. I truly love you. You are an inspiration to so many, and I am honored to be here.
Near-Death Experience One: Angels, Ancestors, and the First Crossing
Thank you. I am humbled by that, and I am so grateful. Thank you so much. Your gifts are amazing. We are going to help a lot of people, get a lot of people’s insights, and be enlightened by what has happened to you. Let us go right to the beginning. What were these three near-death experiences about? Each one awakened different layers within you, right? You did not believe in all this stuff. Were you a skeptic?
I was not a skeptic. I was raised Catholic. When I was twelve, my grandfather passed away. What I noticed was he and I were still having conversations. I would share that with my mom, and my mom would say, “That’s what you think he would say if he were still here.” I learned, “This is just between grandpa and me.” I did not know the term mediumship or anything about that at that point in time. I just continued on.
My grandma passed away some years later. We had the same connection. I mentioned it to my mom, and my mom said, “That is what you think she would say.” I go on, and then I end up getting married. I am newly married. In April of 2001, I had my first near-death experience. During this time, I am in a hospital visiting my sister-in-law, who has had a baby. I am in the hallway talking to her RN, who was my friend from high school. Talk about the way everything is lining up.
As I am talking to my friend, I have a massive seizure. Which I had never had and I’ve never had one since. What I remember is talking to her, then opening my eyes. I was lying in this beautiful white room where the walls were almost alive and breathing, and every molecule or cell was radiating light and love. As I looked up, I noticed that I was lying with my head in my grandma’s lap.
My grandma was looking at me. She was smiling, and she was the youngest, healthiest version of herself that I could remember. I remember feeling the unconditional love, the timelessness, and the bliss. As I was lying in this space, I looked up next to her, and I saw a beautiful angel who was about 12 feet tall. I remember thinking, “I want to see her wings.” As I moved my eyes to look for the wings, which I thought would be made of feathers, I realized that her wings were made of light and that they moved like the Aurora Borealis. They truly seemed to span eternity.
As I looked at her, I was thinking in my mind, “What is your name?” She answered me. She said, “My name is Madeline, and I am one of your guardian angels.” I was a little surprised because I knew nothing about telepathic communication. I was just soaking in this moment. The next thing I know I hear someone yelling “Code.” I had quit breathing. They were calling the code team since I was in the hospital.
Thank God you were talking to that RN when that happened.
I feel like I almost dropped out of a two-story building back into my body. I went from feeling light as a feather to about 2,000 pounds of cement. I remember the density. I remember trying to lift my arm and feeling like my arm weighed 500 pounds. They ended up admitting me to the hospital and running tests. They never found out why I had the seizure. I have never had another one again. This was a big moment in my life because what it did was it enhanced some of the mediumship abilities that I already had, but it connected me to the angelic realm.
At this point, I did not know the term near-death experience. I knew I had had an experience that was more vivid than my daily life, but I did not know exactly what to do with it. Although, I felt the connections to angels were much stronger. More messages from grandma and grandpa are coming on. I just put it on the shelf and kept going because I did not know what to do with this. Truly, there were not a lot of people I could tell about this.
Especially in those days, which was my experience when I had my spiritual awakening. What kinds of messages were you getting from your grandparents?
They were still very connected to things that were happening in our family. They would talk about my mom like, “She is having a hard time. She is depressed. She needs to quit making herself feel so guilty.” Both of them had illnesses, and it took them a while to transition. My mom was one of those people who would have, should have, could have, I miss this, and I miss that. My grandparents kept coming through like, “Tell her we know she did her best. Let this go.”
Near-Death Experience Two: Motherhood, Survival, and Choosing to Stay
What happened with number two? How many years later did you have a near-death experience two?
That one was in May of 2006. At that point in my life, I had three little kids. I had a five-year-old, a two-and-a-half-year-old, and a six-week-old infant.
You were not conscious that you were becoming a medium.
I’m in the battle of motherhood trying to survive the day and get people fed and keep them safe. There was no goal of being a medium happening. It was just survival. What happened when I had my son, he was my infant at that time. I had a lot of complications. In the six weeks following his birth, I was in the hospital the majority of the time on IV antibiotics with abscesses. Finally, they decided that they needed to do a D&C, which is a procedure where they clear out the uterus. They were convinced this was going to be what sent me home, and I would be fine.
The night before, I had a pit in my stomach, because we get these moments where we know we should not do something, but we decide to do it anyway. I knew I should not go through with this, but they had promised me it was a 45-minute outpatient procedure. It was going to fix my issues. I was ready to be home. I was physically and mentally exhausted. I wanted to be home with the babies.
It is a medical profession. They help, but they can also be very intimidating. There is a sense of authority. If they are telling you you should have this procedure, you are ignoring what you learn later to pay attention to, what your own intuition is telling you, right?
That was one of the things I learned from this. I went to the hospital the next morning. I talked to the doctor and the anesthesiologist. They both tell me, “45 minutes, outpatient, piece of cake. You are going to be fine.” I am like, “Here we go.” I had had anesthesia before. Whenever I have had anesthesia, it is just a blank space. There is no dream. There is no visit. There is nothing. I remember counting backwards for the anesthesiologist. The next thing I know, I am lying on the gurney in the operating room. I turn my head.
I look over, and my beautiful 102-pound white German Shepherd who had passed away a couple of years before walks into the operating room and lays her head on my gurney. Smiles at me the way dogs smile, and we are gone. We are on this phenomenal beach. On this beach, there are colors that we do not have here. There are almost emotions like a higher level of emotion that we do not have here. I am looking around,
Every molecule, cell, and drop of water in the ocean is radiating light and love. The light and the love come from within in this heavenly realm. I remember looking at my dog. She looked like she was about two years old. She was healthy and her coat was full. We were telepathically communicating. She was so happy that I was there. We were running on the beach. At some point, I start to notice I am not getting hot. I am not getting tired and thirsty. This is different.
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The beach sand feels like clouds, and I start to come into awareness that I am having this amazing experience. The funny thing about this near-death experience is that human Michelle hate to run. If I am running, this is a 911 emergency. In the middle of the room, I am just running down the beach with my dog. As I am with her and I start to pause and realize this is different. I can feel my son who is six weeks old at the time, calling to me. He was at the house with my mom. He knew I was getting ready to leave.
On a soul level, I did not need to be there in person for him to know. I remember going to him and telling him, “I am not going to leave you. I will find a way to stay.” I did not know what to do, so I started praying. I said, “I need help. It is not my time. My kids still need me.” As I was saying these prayers, the next thing I knew, I was immediately back in the operating room. Jesus walked in.
Being Catholic, I had always believed in Jesus anyway, but Jesus walked in as my best friend. Not, confess your sins or pray to me or bow down to me. The energy was, I am here to help you. The operating room lit up in this beautiful and white, golden light. The next thing I knew I was waking up in post-op, and my 45-minute procedure had turned into a three-and-a-half-hour emergency surgery because they had ruptured my uterus in multiple places. They missed my artery by literally one millimeter.
How long did it take you to recover from that awful experience?
Physically, it took me about four months to get back to 80% level of functioning.
You’re trying to take care of kids and everything, right?
When they ruptured the uterus, the infection spread into the body cavity. I was in the hospital for that. It was quite a trauma. Being able to take care of kids, I needed help for a while. I was weak. I was anemic. I had all sorts of issues following that. I remembered having this very vivid experience, and I did not know what to do with it. Nobody in my world at that time was talking about near-death experiences. I am also in that survival mode. Now, I am literally trying to heal. I have little kids to take care of. I take this beautiful experience that I know is real and true. I put it on the shelf because I do not know what to do with it.
Heaven said, “She is not getting it. We’re going to have to do it again.”
Near-Death Experience Three: Soul Choice, Destiny, and the Call to Serve
I have friends who are psychic mediums, and they tell me, “I was born this way.” I am like, “That is great. I am happy you did it that way.” That is the easier road to take. The next near-death experience happens for me on November 1st, 2011. It’s a little while later. At that point in time, I was living in a house with 14-foot ceilings about 12 feet off the ground. I had battery-operated candles. About once a month, I would climb up the ladder and change the batteries. Everything was fine.
My younger two were home, and my older one was at an after-school program. I said to my younger two, “As soon as I am done putting this candle back up, we are going to go get your sister.” They said okay. They were sitting at the kitchen table on November 1st, and they were starting to make their Christmas list for Santa. They had the Toys R Us catalog out and the markers. They are doing what kids do. I am climbing back up this ladder. I get towards the top and I feel it start to shift. I literally thought, “This is going to hurt.” That was the only thing that went through my mind.
In the next moment, I am ripped out of my body. Not in a painful way, but a fast way like a bungee cord. I am turned around, facing my body and the ladder suspended in the air like a freeze frame in a movie. I am standing with these three people whom I do not know, but they feel like family and friends. I feel like they know everything about me. One was an Asian man, one was a Hawaiian man, and one was an Egyptian woman. As I am standing there with them, I am feeling the timelessness, the bliss, and that unconditional love.
They said to me, “What do you want to do? Do you want to stay or do you want to go?” As they said that, this beautiful angel, not the same one from my first near-death experience, comes in dressed in a very deep red and gold. When I see this angel, I know it is either here to make something happen so I can stay or to take me home. There is no doubt why this angel is here. As they asked me this question, I was in my head a little bit, “This is interesting. My body is frozen in the air. I have forever to decide, but I think it is going to hit the floor in about a second.” I am analyzing what is happening.
While your child is waiting for you.
I’m analyzing what is going on, and then my attention is drawn to my two kids who are there in the kitchen with me. The minute that I see them, I think, “I need to stay. I am not done. I still want this opportunity to be their mom. What would their lives be without me?” As I make this decision, I am downloaded with a bunch of information. The information is, “If you go back, you need to use your mediumship. You need to use this in ways to help people.”
They told me that my marriage would most likely end in divorce and that there was more trauma ahead. Here I am in the heavenly realm. They are giving me a bleak outlook. I am not coming back to rainbows and unicorns. They are telling me it is going to be hard. I 100% remember saying, “Send me in.” I remember knowing that it was not going to be easy and still choosing this opportunity. I end up falling off the ladder. I hit the back of my head on the corner of the granite island. I had a five-and-a-half-inch skull fracture and a brain bleed. I lost my equilibrium, my taste, my smell, my hearing, and all sorts of stuff.
How did your kids react when you fell and all that was going?
I survived this fall by half an inch. That was how much I missed my brain stem by, which was literally the distance that the angel moved my head. I survived one by a millimeter and the other by half an inch. Sometimes we think, “What is a millimeter?” It could be the difference between life and death. My daughter called 911. She was able to get me help. I was in the hospital with a brain bleed. They were terrified. What happens with this is I am in the hospital for about ten days, and then I can come home. I am able to sit up again, bouncing down the hallway when I walk, because of my vestibular system.
After Christmas that year, my son, who was five, started getting depressed because he said he had tried to call 911, and it did not go through. He said, “There is nothing I did to help you. Sophie could have done it without me.” We would say, “Josh, you opened the door for the policeman. You did help.” You could feel the weight on this little five-year-old. At the end of January 2012, my grandfather, who passed away when I was twelve, came through to me in my first huge mediumship visit since my head injury. He talked about my son.
They never lived on this planet at the same time. He talked about my accident. He said to me, “Your son is good with electronics. You need to get the 911 recording. There is something on there you should know.” I did not even know I could get this 911 recording. I went down to the police station and ordered it. It came in about two weeks later. I put it on the computer to play it. I hear them say, “911, what is your emergency?”
In his little broken voice, my son, Josh, says, “Sophie, what do I say?” He then laid the phone down. For the next minute and a half, the operators were trying to get his attention. You hear him say he is going to push the panic button on the house alarm. My daughter, Sophie, says, “Hold on. Let me try calling 911.” She then hangs up the phone, and her call goes through. Both of their calls went through. When Josh came home from kindergarten that day, I told him his call went through, and help was coming. It was like lifting this 10,000-pound weight off this little boy. I literally saw his self-worth and self-esteem start to shift. In that moment, I realized the gift of mediumship changes lives.
Love, Suicide, and Soul Agreements: The Loss of Gary
What a beautiful story, though. That is amazing. You also had another trauma. Your life partner, Gary, died from suicide in August of 2023, which is so recent, and I am so sorry. Could you tell us about Gary and your relationship with him?
I do want to confirm my lifeguides were right. My 25-year marriage ended in divorce. They knew what was coming. I did fall in love again. I fell in love with Gary.
How did you meet him?
We have been friends with him for a couple of years. I had met him at a party where I was the medium and doing readings. We met there and stayed in touch. When I filed for divorce, he and I started hanging out more. I cannot tell you when our first date was. I do not know when it went from friendship to romance, but it happened. The beauty with him was that I felt a type of love I had never felt in my marriage. He was very accepting of my mediumship. He was excited about it, and very loving and kind.
I knew he had depression, and I knew this had been a long struggle for him. He did not hide this. He would have a couple of bad days. He would turn off his phone and the computer and sleep through it and then re-emerge. He had tried medications. They made him feel worse. He had every self-help book you can imagine. This guy had tried every technique and read every book. He was constantly trying to figure out how to beat the depression. Overall, we had a great relationship. He was great with the kids.
All of that was going well. His depression was not a deal-breaker for me because I feel like people have this as part of life, and usually, we learn to navigate it. I was out of town with my oldest daughter, and we were celebrating. My niece had just had a baby. I had been gone a couple of days, and I remember texting with him the morning I was coming home. I said, “We have had a great time, but I am ready to come home to you. I am excited to see you.”
He had started a new job. He was talking about things going well. He had been at my house that day to water the plants, the dogs, and waved hi to my daughter. I got home. The flight is running late. I called him and he didn’t answer. I was thinking he is probably with a client. Into the night, I texted him and I do not hear back. I am going, “Probably a depression is starting.” He lived at the time with his youngest daughter, who was not ready to meet me, and I was okay with that.
When her car was home, I did not go to the house when she was there. He would come to mine. We were working it out. With this being said, the next morning, I called his work because I still had not heard from him. They told me he had called in sick. I drove by his house. His car was out there. His daughter’s car was there. I thought, “He is having one of these moments, and it will be okay. At least he is safely at home.”
We had a party that we were scheduled to go to. It was a Ken and Barbie party. We had already picked out our outfits. I went to the party that night. He did not go, and people were asking, “Where is he?” I said, “I think he is just having one of those spells.” I will say I was calling, emailing, and driving by the place. I felt like it did not feel good. It felt uneasy. I go home that night from the party, and I am in my bathroom. It’s after midnight. I am getting ready for bed. I brush my teeth. I see him come in and I can tell you exactly what he was.
He comes in spirit.
My body starts to give out because I know this is mediumship. He looks at me in his eyes. He had beautiful blue eyes. His eyes are sparkling. He says to me, “You sure are beautiful.” My body literally started to give out. I made it to my bed, and I lay down. I felt him lie behind me and put his arm over me. He said, “I wanted to be the one to tell you.” That was how I found out that he had taken his life.
Grief Without Bypass: Why Spiritual Knowing Doesn’t Cancel Human Pain
To have the gift as you have and for him literally to come to you that way right after he passed, in a way, it’s a blessing. Other people lose spouses and all. I feel I was blessed because of my car accident. I got all those messages during the accident. Even though I was in despair and I was going to need all these surgeries, I knew something was up. I knew there was something bigger that was happening. For you to have this blessing, to be able to see him that way, but now you are grieving your heart out.
I felt like I fell into the depths of hell. I know many of your people tuning in have been there, too. I will say that even with all of the gifts I have as a medium, there is no way to bypass human grief. There just isn’t. What this did to me was this launched me on a different journey because now I was like, “What is my soul plan? Did I agree to this? What is happening here?” It lit another fire in me. As far as grief or missing feeling his hand or his body, I do not think you ever get over that in human form.
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Sometimes, I liken this person has been swimming in your body, your soul, and your heart for so long, and all of a sudden, poof. It’s almost like a withdrawal. It’s like, “Where is he? What happened?” Are there any special truths about love or life or your own soul that were revealed to you that you went through with Gary’s passing? How did it help you to grow in some way?
When I started looking into our soul plans, what I found out is that he was more likely than most people to leave by suicide. We know this because he had genetic issues, such as depression, that were in his family. My soul agreement with Gary as I dove into it, what I found out was that he agreed to stay longer so that he could love me and I could feel loved in a way I had never felt loved.
He healed you in a way.
He did. I agreed that if he was going to leave the world this way, I would be able to help more people with it, just because of the work that I do.
In a way, you experienced what real love is. I would imagine that when people contact you for guidance, you could identify when they are dealing with something real or when they should say, “Bye-bye. Be on your way, toxic person.” Did this change you because you are now accepting your mediumship? On the earth plane, how did that change?
I had been working as a medium for quite a while. The good side of this was that I was not worried about him. I did not think he was burning in hell. I knew he had met with light and love. In that way, I had been working with suicide a lot, but it was the first person super close to me that I had to deal with it with. What happened for me was that I feel like now there are times when he comes in when I am working.
When we lose someone in spirit, they are almost closer to us and more connected because now we do not have to send a phone call or a text or make time in our day to see you and meet you for lunch. They are connected to us all the time. They are a thought away. It does not mean they have to know everything that is happening in your life, but they are energetically connected to us.
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What happened was, as I was moving through this process, I was working again. I was back in mediumship, but I could feel him coming in. I could feel him helping me to receive more information for a client than I had before. I was able to start diving into people’s soul plans. “What was your soul plan when you came to planet Earth?” That is something that I am so passionate about now because that was a key piece in my being able to heal with Gary.
You found out that all of this was part of a soul plan for you. You must have thought in the beginning, “What was I thinking over there?”
Absolutely. I’d love to know who approved that, like who approved his plan?
It was you. I had the same reaction when I found out that all of this was a soul plan for me. In a way, it gave me a lot of comfort. “There are some parts of this that I do not see or I do not understand, and I am not going to understand it until I cross back over.”
Messages From the Other Side: Loved Ones Want Us to Live Fully
It frees you from a victim mentality because you do not win by playing the victim. You win when you allow yourself to heal. What I found very important, and this is a question I share with my clients all the time. One of my dear friends, Susan, about five weeks after Gary passed, came to me and said, “What does healing look like for you?”
I will be honest. At that point in time, it was, “Could I just get through the grocery store without crying? Could I just get to the mailbox without falling on my knees?” That question. This is important for your audience to ask themselves, what does healing look like for me? It’s an ever-evolving question. At some point, the day came when I did not cry for the first time going through the grocery store.
I was able to change that question to something else, “My next level of healing will be.” What I know as a medium is that our loved ones in the spirit world are cheering us on to live full, happy, healthy, engaged lives. The last thing they want is for us to shut the door and the curtains and sit on the couch and wait to die. That is not what they want. They are literally saying to us, “Your time here is short. Live it.”
Also, when they get to the other side, if they have had a lot of trauma or issues, they go to healing places there. Now they are around you, but they have a different perspective. They are not coming from the earthbound filled with pain perspective. They are coming with a little bit of a higher viewpoint.
We are connecting with their higher selves. It is that graduation that they get to continue into.
Speaking of your higher self, I know that you had a session where you received a message from Mother Teresa. You were doing a reading for a female nurse. Tell us about that. How fabulous.
It was amazing. This nurse’s mother was in hospice. I believe she had eight kids. She was working full-time. She was literally being run into the ground. I was in the session, and all of a sudden, I felt Mother Teresa come in.
How did you know it was her?
I saw her. I had a vision of her. I knew this was her, and I could feel that she felt small and tiny. I said to this lady, “I have Mother Teresa here.” I am awestruck. She says, “I worked with her in Calcutta.” They had a human connection on this planet. Mother Teresa came in and said to her, “I never lost sight of taking care of myself because if I did, I would not have been able to take care of others,” which was exactly what this beautiful woman needed to hear at that point in time. She said, “Even Jesus was able to see this.” It is the analogy of being on the plane. Put your oxygen mask on first. Had she not been true to herself in what she needed, she would not have been able to help the thousands of people that she helped.
That is wonderful to know about her. I knew about Mother Teresa. I often wonder what life was like because all I could see was her tending to a trillion people. In her way, she took care of herself also.
She had to have that time off-camera or wherever, where she was filling her own cup to be able to do what she did.
Compassion, Perspective, and the SEE Method
Speaking of filling your own cup, what is the SEE Method of yours?
I love this. The SEE Method. I like this because it is very easy to remember, but it changes our perspective on life. At the end of the day, our free will is in our perspective. The S stands for we are all souls having a human experience. The E is that everyone is seeing life through their own lens. Even if you are identical twins, you have your own lens. You are seeing life differently. The last E is that everyone is trying to do their best. When you use this method to start looking at the people who are challenging you in your life or people that you disagree with. What you can find is compassion for them and compassion for yourself. This is the thread of life.
In a way, that method keeps you from taking everything personally.
It does.
They are having their own experience. They are coming in on their level of soul growth or whatever it is. I see that now, too. I do not take things as personally as I used to. I say that’s just where they’re coming from.
We have over eight billion people on planet Earth now. It means we have eight billion different courses of earthly life happening. When we start to see it that way, it is not about making people wrong and people right. It is about giving perspective.
We are all here to evolve, supposedly.
We are. It is not pretty sometimes.
Angels, Guidance, and Channeled Wisdom
It is hard. Speaking of that, you have now written two books. Besides 101 Ways to Set Your Soul on Fire, tell us about that and the other one. Were both of your books channeled?
Yes, they are both channeled.
What do you do, you close your eyes, you meditate, and the information comes through to you?
Absolutely. I have had my friends say to me, “These books do not sound like you talk.” I said, “That is because that is not me. That is not how I talk.” I would call a download, where I give myself a thought or a topic, then I see the messages around it. The other book that I have done is 111 Angel Messages. They are basically daily messages. Some people will randomly open up to the page and get their message for the day or read one a day. They are all meant to help us remember that we are souls having a human experience and we are here to laugh, love, learn, and grow in the magic of life, which is easy to forget nowadays.
It sure is when a lot of stuff is going on, but it is good to know. It changes your perspective. Now, changing your perspective, we are coming to your upcoming angel course with the Shift. Tell us about how you are going to change people’s perspectives there.
Thank you. I am so excited about this. This is a seven-week live course. It starts in April 2026. We will start putting out promotions in March for it. Every week, we are going to connect to a different angel on your very own angel team. A lot of people think they just have a guardian angel, but you also have a cherub angel, a seraphim angel, and an archangel. We have a whole team of angels around us who are coming in with different goals and purposes to help us do the best we can, succeed, and feel the love and compassion in this lifetime.
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What is the difference between the angels and the guardian? Are they the guardian angels that we talk about, or is it a different group of angels?
There are guardian angels. Everyone has at least one guardian angel in this lifetime that you picked before birth. This angel is connected to your soul plan. You guys became a vibrational match. We also have cherub angels. Cherub angels come in to help us when we are in grief or when we need more joy. We have archangels that will help us with certain paths in life. If you are a healer, meaning a massage therapist, a neurosurgeon, or a Reiki master. You are most likely working with Archangel Raphael because this is the Archangel of healing. It is starting to tune in to all the different channels that are all in the angelic realm, but they do have a little bit of specialty to them.
That is interesting. Do you have a special promo for our audience?
You will have a link from me that takes them to a video on how to move from fear to acceptance to love. This is important at this time in our history because many people, or many of my clients, are very fearful about the future, very fearful about things that are happening right now. I feel like this video is a great thing to share with people. The other thing that I want to say about this is when I connect with spirit, when I connect with the angels, and I am like, “Do we need to be scared? What is happening?”
We are in a state of change and unrest. That is true. You can see that everywhere in the world. Think about this, every person on this planet now has heavenly beings around them, like angels, lifeguides, loved ones, and spirits. There is an unlimited amount of beings of light who are holding the space for us to get there and for this planet to evolve and move into the next level of a more peaceful and loving existence. That is where we are headed. It just does not look pretty now.
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Healing Now: Choosing Joy, Courage, and Forward Motion
That is very comforting. On that note, like me, I know you are passionate that people should heal their stuff. Tell us why. What is the importance of healing? While you are here. Now we know we are coming back. We know our loved ones are on the other side. Why should we go out of our way with all this trauma and stuff we have gone through here to work on it here, which is very challenging?
I would say work here goes further than it does in the heavenly realm.
Why is that?
When I talk about planet Earth, I want everyone to go back to when you were in high school in the driver simulator. If you’re old enough to. If you wreck the car in the simulator, you just hit the restart button, and you start it again. Planet Earth is like boots on the ground, LA, and 5:00 traffic. The lessons that we learn here and the ability to heal them are almost more intense.
Remember, your soul chose this lifetime. You came here of your own free will. You are not forced to be here on a soul level. You chose the challenges and the missions that you would have. On a higher level, your soul wants to learn, grow, and heal through these experiences. What I will tell people is that healing is possible, and you want to heal it now for multiple reasons. One, because your soul also wants to enjoy this lifetime and this experience.
It is not all supposed to be hard work and trauma. The other reason you want to heal here is that some lessons that we might leave unlearned, we might have to come back and learn them in a different lifetime or in a different way. I always think about it as, “Get the most out of your money.” If I am here in this lifetime, I am going to go all in.
That is why you did this. They presented this platter to you, and it looked terrible. You said, “I am going all-in in this lifetime.”
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Healing is possible. Here’s what I will say. Sometimes I have clients who will come to me, and they will say, “I will never smile again. I will never laugh again. My loved ones in spirit. I will never be happy.” Guess what? You just co-created your future because you have made a statement that you are determined to stick by. You have created a future without joy and happiness, which is exactly the opposite of what your loved ones want for you.
It is the opposite of what your soul wants for yourself. Your soul wants to be happy and enjoy planet Earth, too. When I have people who come to me and say, “I do not know how to be happy again, but I know I will be.” That is the start. You just have to leave the door cracked open. What I have found with so many things in my life is that if I leave the door cracked, the spirit will find a way to come in and bring the right person, place, situation, or whatever into my life. It is always about leaving the opening.
What is the Michelle Clare tip for finding joy in life?
First of all, do not make it so complicated because people think that joy has to be complicated. “If I won the lottery, I would have my yacht, and then I would be happy, or if I healed this trauma, then I would be happy.” The tip for finding joy is to allow it to happen now. We rob ourselves of happiness every day. You get to work, and you are crabby. Why are you crabby? “I hit three red lights.” So what? Be happy. It is almost like humans look for reasons why we cannot be happy instead of reasons why we can be. Be happy because your coffee is warm, your shower is hot, or your lights are turned on in your house. We do not have to have massive, huge things happen in our lives to allow ourselves to be joyful.
That is so true. Many people also think that once they have a loss, they can never be happy again. It is like some kind of a badge of honor. You could be in pain, and you could still have joy and be expanding and opening to your future. In fact, your loved ones are on the other side, cheering for you to do that.
I always tell people you can be healing and moving forward at the same time. This is not an excuse to be like, “When I am finally healed, then I will start dating, or when I am finally healed, then I will go for the new job.” You can be both. You can be healing and moving forward in your journey at the same time.
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Take the Step: A Closing Invitation to Live Fully
In closing, I want to share an uplifting message from your book, 101 Ways to Set Your Soul on Fire. This passage is titled, Take the Step. It says, “New beginnings tend to start because of an ending. It is okay to not feel ready. It is okay to feel unsteady. Take this opportunity to create the life that you want to live. Embracing new beginnings requires courage, resilience, and an open heart. Inviting us to step forward into the unknown with optimism and a sense of possibility. You are so strong and loved beyond measure. Take the step, brave soul.”
I want to take the step of thanking you for serving as a bridge between worlds, sharing your heartfelt messages from angels, guides, and loved ones in spirit, for the insightful, inspiring messages you shared in your two books, and for shining a bright light on your healing journey through grief and renewal during this very special episode. The only thing missing is inviting you for a glass of wine after the episode, but we cannot do that. You are in Phoenix, and I am here in New Jersey.
If we could, I would be there.
From my heart, I wish you everything wonderful and many abundant blessings always.
Thank you so much, Irene. I adore you, and I honor the work you are doing in this world. You are helping so many people. Thank you so much for letting me be a part of your journey.
You are welcome. This is one of the blessings for me in my life. I get to talk to Michelle. It is just a wonderful thing. As I like to say, to be continued.
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- 101 Ways to Set Your Soul on Fire: Messages From a Medium to Ignite Your Soul Purpose
- 111 Angel Messages: Channeled Guidance To Awaken, Heal & Inspire Your Soul
About Michelle Clare
Michelle Clare is a Speaker, Author, and Certified Medium who has been featured on Coast to Coast AM, Amazon Prime, The Shift Network, and Gaia TV. As an Angel Intuitive, Spiritual Coach, Medical Intuitive, and Energetic Healer, she blends intuitive insight with compassionate guidance—and is also Certified in Human Interaction Technology, deepening her understanding of the human soul and psyche.
Over the span of 11 years, Michelle survived three Near Death Experiences (NDEs) that profoundly awakened her gifts and transformed her life. She now serves as a bridge between worlds, delivering heartfelt messages from loved ones in spirit, angels, and life guides. Her path is one of resilience, divine remembrance, and soul-led awakening.
Michelle is passionate about helping others understand the deeper meaning behind their challenges by sharing powerful truths about Soul Plans, Near Death and Shared Death Experiences, and the delicate landscape surrounding suicide. Through her work, she offers hope, healing, and a sacred invitation to remember who you truly are—and why you’re here.
