Q: What was the biggest shift for you since your communication with your husband from “the other side”? What were some of the lessons you learned?
A: Oh my, so many lessons learned and shifts within me!
1) The sudden car accident which left my husband instantly dead next to me taught me that I have control over absolutely nothing in my life except my attitude in dealing with whatever life hands me. Before the accident, I had a lot of control issues. After the accident, I let most of them go and I’ve continued to let them go as the years pass by.
2) As the EMT pulled me through the window of my car, I remember thinking “I will get through this somehow, because I need to be a role model for my son. He needs to know that you can get “hit by a grenade” in life and keep on going.”
3) Writing the book and receiving some harsh skepticism helped me to learn to hold on to “my truth” and to stop worrying about what others think. To this day, there are people in my life who are uncomfortable and skeptical about me, and my story. It is very challenging not to allow these people to intimidate me and for me, not to judge them. Now I see they are some of my best teachers, as they remind me to stay conscious, empowered and to hold on to “my truth.”
4) There were people in my life who were wonderful to me when I was suffering, but then turned on me when things started to get better. I realized then, that some people enjoy others’ suffering because they can feel powerful and become jealous when things start going well. So I have learned to BLESS AND RELEASE these people from my life. (To be loving and kind to everyone, also includes me).
5) Before the accident, I usually took “the high road” due to the promptings of my gut; I now take “the high road” because I KNOW there is karma. I KNOW we go on, and I KNOW that certain people are placed in my life to help me learn certain lessons. I do not want to come back with lessons still to be learned. This knowledge motivates me to live consciously and to strive to “be clean” in my relationships!
6) I have learned to be conscious about what I say and how I behave with people, because it may be our last interaction. Besides, I have seen too many people distraught over their “shuddas, wuddas, and cuddas,” after their loved one is deceased.
7) Don’t seek to convert others. Be a role model and let people choose what they learn and take away.