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Born in the Philippines, Krista Nerestant moved to the US at the age of twelve and became a successful entrepreneur at 17 years old. In addition to being the owner of, serving as a certified spiritual medium and teacher to demystify the world of spirit and energy, Krista is a neuro-linguistic life coach and hypnotist specializing in the Satir method of Transformational Systemic Therapy. Her inspiring new memoir, titled Indestructible: The Hidden Gifts of Trauma, tells the story of the tremendous obstacles Krista faced and overcame to champion for the life she wanted for herself and her family.

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Krista Nerestant: It is possible to extract life-healing lessons while overcoming a violent past: how the incredible, heroic journey of her life turned Krista’s struggles into powerful lessons that can help each of us.






I hope this finds each of you very well. I’m delighted to have this opportunity to introduce all of you to Krista Nerestant, the Owner of She serves as a certified spiritual medium and teacher to demystify the world of spirit and energy. Krista also works as a neurolinguistic life coach and hypnotist specializing in the Satir method of transformational systemic therapy.

She hosted a podcast dedicated to encouraging, empowering, and elevating the self-care journey, which may be coming back. We’ll look forward to that. Krista, who lives with her daughter and husband in Austin, Texas, was born in the Philippines, moved to the United States at the age of 12, and became a successful entrepreneur at 17 years old.

Her new memoir titled Indestructible: The Hidden Gifts of Trauma tells the story of the tremendous obstacle she faced and overcame to champion the life she wanted for herself and her family. I’m looking forward to talking with Krista about how she demystifies the world of spirit and energy through her work as a spiritual medium and teacher.

Her work is a neurolinguistic life coach and hypnotist specializing in the Satir method of transformational systemic therapy and the four elements of her self-care journey and her riveting new memoir titled Indestructible: The Hidden Gifts of Trauma. This is surely going to be an inspiring and very empowering interview with a truly remarkable woman. Krista, a warm, heartfelt welcome to the show.

Thank you so much for having me. I’m grateful and honored to be here.

It’s my pleasure. Let’s talk about your wonderful childhood. Let’s start there. In the Philippines, you were a frightened child in the household of your very abusive alcoholic father. You then moved to the United States at the age of twelve. You became a successful entrepreneur at seventeen years old. Please tell us more about the challenges and successes of your very difficult childhood.

It was a very traumatic and challenging childhood. However, my book is all about the hidden gifts of trauma. Honestly, due to those challenges and traumas, my need to survive and gain the perspective to not only survive but to be intact was revealed to me at a young age. That’s when I discovered spirit and this other, part of me, which is the power of spirit, faith, light, and love. I’m sure here the audience would be open to receiving and allowing this acknowledgment that you are a spiritual being having a human experience. I knew that as an adult, but it’s funny. The things that we know as an adult we experience as children.

Tell us about that. How did you experience that as a child? You even had mediumistic abilities as a child.

When I recognized that I was able to cope and develop these amazing coping mechanisms, that enabled me to survive and overcome certain experiences, and not just from a human aspect or a psychological aspect, but from our spiritual aspect. What do I mean by that? There was a time when I went through a physical trauma.

My father punished me by allowing me to hold hot coals in my hand for punishment. I was 6 or 7 at that age. In the Philippines, it was also conditioned that you’re just a child. You’re no one. You’re not a person. At that time, I had an out-of-body experience. It was interesting because when I say out-of-body, it’s like, if you’re in the world of spirit, you understand this terminology, which is astral projection.

Did this happen while you were holding those coals, he was punching you, and you left your body?

I left my body and watch it from afar. That’s when I started playing with this idea, even at a young age, that I’m able to transfer and be where the physical body is here, but then I don’t have to hold onto it in an energetic sense.

Did you find yourself floating above the whole scene and watching yourself?

Yes. There’s a technique that I use in my work. It’s a real technique that we use in therapy. In working with our past selves and our child’s selves, when it comes to trauma healing and healing anything, we’re not only healing the person of the now that’s in the space. We’re healing all the parts of you that went through that trauma. It was like I left my body. I was watching from afar still connected to my body, but it enabled me not to hold on and be stuck in that scene.

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You didn’t feel the pain.

It’s dissociation. It’s something that we don’t suggest to dissociate, but in times of need and in certain experiences, there’s a moment that you do dissociate due to that. At six years old, there was no other way for me, but that. I didn’t have my three frontal cortexes fully developed to allow me to be cognitively cognizant of where to go, how to proceed, and how to do so. It was instinct.

Indestructible: The Hidden Gifts of Trauma was created to allow even adults to understand that instinctively, these gifts are yours. They might be buried and hidden from turmoils, challenges, and life experiences, but they’re there. The gifts of resilience, courage, faith, forgiveness, love, and healing. They’re underneath all the other crap.

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Indestructible: The Hidden Gifts of Trauma

You also have medium. Were you seeing deceased loved ones around you?

No, I wish.

The supernatural experience you had when you were eight years old was that with the coals. Was there something else?

That was something else. That was a spirit communication with a past person. The interesting part is that my experiences with the spirit world have been with strangers. It wasn’t with family. I wish I had those moments where it’s like, “Uncle or Grandma visited me.” It was interesting because at eight years old, everybody around me was still alive.

My experiences with spirit were with strangers and with people that I didn’t know who they were. It left me scared and questioning, but it was also interesting because though I was scared, I knew that it was something to be explored. Even at a young age, I asked adults around me, “What’s happening? What’s going on? This is what happened.”

I was open about it. My adults in the Philippines are very Catholic. Even though we understand the world of energy and spirit as far as nature and being in touch with nature, the domain of religion and faith was Catholicism. That was frowned upon. Their answer was, “Go to church and pray it away,” and I did because I was a child. I thought that that was the case, but it wouldn’t go away. It didn’t go away, even as an adult.

Your story is amazing. You made a decision to take on the role of mother to your younger brothers at 21 years old and then, you opened your own business. You even called yourself the hairdresser medium. Do you want to tell us about that?

I started to merge the two businesses. In my high school, we had the ability to gain an elective, which is a trade. I chose Cosmetology, not because I thought it was hair, but because I thought it was the cosmos, learning about the planets and the stars. I was such a nerd. I thought I’m going to be in the planetarium for three hours. It’s going to be 25 credits. The college people will fight for me.

I come in on the first day of class, and it was a bunch of mannequins and blow dryers that greeted me. I freaked out. This is how spirit works. My mom passed when I was fifteen. She made me promise on her deathbed that I had to be a mother now. Even at 14 or 15 years old, I knew I had to somehow be financially stable enough to take care of my siblings.

How many of you were there?

I’m 1 of 5. I’m the second older.

Your mother at 15 years old gives you the responsibility to take care of your other 4 siblings.

I took it seriously because I’m that kind of person. Even as a child and how I cope, I am very much, “This is what’s happening. I accept it. Now what?” That’s the same thing that I did with my mom was passing. We could not fight her death. I had to accept it no matter how much it hurt. I had to then process, “This is now my job.” It helped me heal the emotional aspect of it that the fourteen-year-old that was crying, but then there’s this other part of me that came forward and allowed me to go, “With grace, how do we rise above it?” We had to.

I walk into my first day of Cosmetology and realized, “It’s not the cosmos. It’s about doing hair.” It was funny because my counselor was like, “Everything else is full. You’re going to have to stay here for the semester at least, and then we could move you.” The first semester I got a job and got referred. I was number one in class. I ended up making so much money then I realized, “This is how God put this in front of me because this was what I asked.” I asked to have the financial stability to take care of my brothers. I graduated. I worked in the industry for eight years. I then opened my own salon and took custody of my brothers at 21.

Did they accept you without a problem as their mother?

Yes, because we were all very close. I said this in my post before, “Trauma may have bonded us, but healing connected us.”

Why did you call yourself The Hairdresser Medium? Were you trying to get messages?

When I came out of this spiritual closet, I still had my salon. I had my salon for fifteen years, and I started to merge my industry together coming out of the spiritual closet. It was one of my clients that dubbed me. One of my clients looked at me and said, “You’re the hairdresser medium. That’s who you are.” I was like, “You’re right.” You know what they say about hairdressers. It’s like we’re therapists without the certification or the paperwork.

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You are a therapist who said a lot of your own healing, which contributed to your personal transformation, and now you help other people to heal. Talk to us about that. What kinds of healing, including therapy, contributed to your personal transformation? How were you able to hold this optimistic perspective despite the tremendous ex-trauma you had experienced? Other people are very pessimistic. That wasn’t Krista.

I knew there was a light at the end of the tunnel. That was me from all I could remember. It’s this idea of accepting my reality, but also recognizing, “How do I move forward with my mind, body, and spirit inside?” That was always been my mantra. That was instilled in me, and I don’t know who instilled it, maybe it’s spirit. I’m a very optimistic person. My healing came forward when I started getting on clients. This question always came into my head, whether I’m in the midst of the session or after the session, or the question was, “How can you help others if you haven’t yet healed?”

That was such a big epiphany for me as a “healer” and “coach.” How can I spill this and not be fully healed? If I was being triggered by their stories, affected, and not able to hold space without bias, then obviously I need to work on myself. I took a year and a half off to do a lot of healing on my own. This is when the book came about, and I discovered all this work.

What did you do?

I did therapy, spiritual, intuitive energy work, Reiki therapy, lots of yoga, journaling, writing, and being honest and truthful with myself. There are a lot of resources. I will always say, “You have to resonate with the healing.” Even though this is how I went through it, even with my book, I say, “This book is not a prescriptive book.” I’ll share with you how I healed and the techniques, but it’s up to you to decide. If you try it, great. If you don’t, it’s okay, but know that there are resources for you everywhere.

That’s how your book is in sync with this show because there are many healing modalities and ways to find the one that works for you. I know you do work as a neurolinguistic life coach and a hypnotist. You specialize in the Satir method of transformational systemic therapy. Would you define all of those for us? Why would someone want to see a neurolinguistic life coach?

Interestingly enough, when I curated a selfish lifestyle as a spiritual haven, to work on the spiritual body, you do have poor bodies, mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual, I recognize that though my clients are coming in for spiritual work, whether it’s spiritual mediumship, tarot or energetic alignment and such, they kept coming back for the coaching, which is the practical techniques that came with it.

I’m a big proponent and advocate of practitioners letting their clients go. I tell my clients all the time, “I don’t want to see you forever. I want to be able to aid you and work with you so that you can sustain on your own. Maybe then we can connect six months once a year.” It’s about allowing you to be embodied in your own power, truth, and governance.

When I discovered that my clients needed more than spiritual work, they needed the practical tools and the cognitive ability to do the practical steps to move forward beyond my door. I decided to go ahead and be certified in neurolinguistic coaching. Neurolinguistics is a way for me to navigate the mental body, which a lot of us are cerebral. Humans work a lot.

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Life Healing Lessons: A lot of us are cerebral. Humans work a lot. Neurolinguistics is a way to navigate the mental body.


Does neurolinguistics coaching help them to refrain from the situation, the way they mentally process it to change that so that it changes the way they address issues in their lives?

Yes, the perspective. The three pillars of Self-ish are you are a spiritual being having a human experience, you are equipped with everything you need to overcome and survive, and your perspective becomes your reality. Neurolinguistics allows me to aid others to gain a certain perspective. No matter how challenging things can be, what’s our perspective like? What is our energy as we are going through this chaos?

It’s a choice.

Neurolinguistic and Satir method of therapy is very much linked and hand in hand with that.

How are they linked?

The Satir method of therapy is a step-by-step way of allowing the mental body to correlate and blend with the spiritual essence of you. Your spiritual being is having a human experience. The human experience is with Irene, the book, glasses, red hair, and the home in West Orange, the labels that we love to identify ourselves with because we’re humans. We love labels for some reason.

The soul body knows that we are boundless, eternal, limitless, and beyond this time, space, and physical body. When we combine this understanding of the two, the soul understands and knows that we’re whole, healed, beautifully worked, and one. If we combine the human experience, it’s experiencing the experience that we are in this earth life, if we combine them and understand, the ego can’t take over. The spirit will then share the other aspect, “We’re going through this, but how can we then work with that in an unlimited, positive, light, healed, or deserving worthy way?

It sounds to me like you give people a lot of hope and constructive help.

We don’t deny the experience. We don’t pretend it didn’t happen. We’re not sugarcoating anything. This is very prominent in my book. I’m very raw with my book and my experience.

Your book is wonderful. I’m going to encourage everyone to get it. Let’s talk about your book. It’s called Indestructible: The Hidden Gifts of Trauma. It’s great, everyone. It describes your hard one understanding of how it is impossible to extract life-healing lessons while overcoming a violent past. What would you like to tell us about that? I’m going to ask you about some of those life-healing gifts of trauma and learn about your story, how you survived it, and your choices.

Let’s go to one of those life-healing gifts of trauma. You talk about the gift of boundaries. People talk about boundaries all the time. People are busy stepping over each other’s boundaries and abusing people’s boundaries. They don’t know what a boundary is. You had experiences with your father that taught you about the gift of boundaries. Do you want to share that with us?

Boundaries, I recognize was the main tool that I issued and work for myself. I am very aware and recognize that boundaries can be re-established and established continually. Just because you establish boundaries on a certain day or moment, doesn’t mean you forget about it. You reestablish it, again and again, and be aware and conscious of it. In my mother and father, I realized boundaries had to be set. I don’t take on their stuff. Their experiences and toxicity were theirs and not mine. Even at a young age, I recognize that. In a way, I built a wall.

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Life Healing Lessons: Boundaries have to be set. Boundaries can be re-established and established continually.


Don’t get it wrong. I beat myself up. The journey that got me here was my physical body. I had three ectopic pregnancies. I couldn’t have a baby naturally. At 22 years old, I had to let get rid of my tubes. This is how important. Your emotional well-being is connected to your physical being. This is also why it’s important for you to understand that you have four bodies. My mental body was high-strung. I was sorry about it because all I knew was to survive. I bulldozed through life. I knew I had to survive, be financially independent, and keep going. I left behind my emotional and physical bodies along the way.

You left those, and later, you got sick.

It was a gift because it made me realize that I got to take control of this. That’s when I discovered yoga and boundaries. The boundary is a continual work, like healing. The moment you open that door of healing, it never ends. I’m sorry. It continues to evolve because you are that worthy of that gift of healing.

Sometimes when it comes to boundaries, a lot of lessons keep reappearing. Did you get it yet?

I do establish it.

It seems to come back a lot of the time. Is there anything specific you want to share before we go into the healing gift of choice? Anything you want to share about what your father taught you about that gift of boundaries? He was a tough guy.

My sharing would be to display, implement, and exercise. Non-attachment is the ultimate gift. Quite honestly in my work as a healer, spiritualist, yogi, and coach, all this work that I do comes down to non-attachment. To be able to coexist and understand that we all don’t have to get along. We all don’t have to like each other, but we have to honor each other’s existence because their journey is theirs. Yours is yours.

This is why boundaries are important, no matter what dynamic it is, whether it’s a marriage, siblings, friends, or coworkers. Once you’re interacting with a being, it doesn’t have to be physical. It could be energetic. Boundaries have to be established and understood so you would know who you are, what your needs are and what you require are, and also theirs. Once you start tapping and melding into yours, you would know your own gut to know, “That’s not cool. I won’t tolerate that.”

If you’re honoring their boundaries, but they don’t honor yours, how does that work?

You have to make that decision to hold yourself accountable. That’s where it is. That’s where it comes from. My three deals are accountability, responsibility, and awareness. That’s all I ask for anyone who works with me or who is in my family. The understanding that when I created these boundaries and came out of the spiritual closet, worked on me, and healed, everyone shifted around me too. In understanding that we’re honoring, I’m not trying to change you. I changed myself, but because I did change myself, that allows you to also shift and go, “How does this work?”

Leave room for magic. Because you have set yourself, this is why I’m big on self-care and my company’s called Self-ish, know you. No one’s going to know you more than you, not your therapist, sister, best friend, or your spiritual healer. I don’t care. They can tap into your soul all the time, but no one will ever know you more than you. Find power in that. If your boundaries are being tested and disrespected, it is up to you to decide.

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If your boundaries are being disrespected, then that comes to the gift of choice because you have a choice about what you’re going to do. Do you stay in this toxic situation or do you leave it?

There may be times when you feel like you have no choice. I hear all the time, “I have no choice.” Let’s take a breath and a moment, but you do have a choice to decide how you want to respond to this state. Would it be grief, anger, or rage? Do we want to honor that this is a challenging moment, this is chaos, and we are a little stuck, but how do we want to perceive it? Where do we want to move forward with this? How do we want this energy to be? There’s a choice.

Do you want to detach and look at it in a different way? There’s another gift that you call the Gift of Forgiveness. That’s a big one for a lot of people. Do you want to talk about that?

That’s why it’s the last one.

How are you able to forgive your father? You also had to forgive yourself in certain ways. Do you want to tell us about that?

For you to even decide to want to start forgiving others is for you to decide that you have to forgive yourself first also for allowing such attachments of cords to be on you. It can easily go to narcissism. If you’re not aware, it can easily go into blaming mode, “I blame my dad for this.” Accountability gets swayed. Through my healing journey or the process, I didn’t jump to forgiveness. It took me a long time to get to forgiveness because it took a lot of unfolding, upheavals, and unpacking to get to that ultimate point in life.

How long did it take you? Considering all the abuse that you suffered as a child, then you are raising your brothers. Now you’re going on into your life. How long did it take you to finally get to that place of looking at forgiveness? Was your father still alive when you forgave him, or did you forgive him energetically?

He was still alive, but he wasn’t with me. He was in the Philippines. I haven’t seen him.

You were the states. Did it happen in New Jersey or in Texas?

It happened when I was getting my certification in the Satir method of therapy in Vancouver. The healing process was sixteen months. I’m a crazy person. I’m extreme. When I’m in, I’m in and I like to go in. When I decided that I had to answer this call of, “How can you help others if you have not yet healed?” I literally did take off a year and a half from my Self-ish company to step back and heal.

I want everybody that understands that it is Self-ish and you are not about talking about being selfish.

It’s not about being selfish. It’s about being self-ish. We have to understand that there are parts of us, the self, the integrated self, and then the big self, but it all comes with self. It all starts with that big S. You always want to incorporate that whether we’re at work, at our family, or whatever it is. You want to have the higher self come forward. It doesn’t have to be woo-woo. The higher self is the part of you that’s alive, mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. My healing journey was sixteen months. I did a lot of work and focused on healing all my bodies.

It led me to forgiveness. It led me there because I started exploring anger, and I realized, “I have a lot of anger.” I misconstrued anger. It wasn’t even anger. It was rage. I had a lot of rage in me. I wasn’t even aware of it until my mentor was like, “You’re misconstruing anger with rage. Rage doesn’t lead anywhere. Anger can be motivational and lead you to stoke that fire to defend and move forward. With rage, you see black.” I realized that was my dad. My dad brought that out of me. Whether he was no longer there physically, he was still in my mind and emotions.

It’s what he did to you as your little inner child. You had to heal her.

I did a lot of that. Here I was as a prefrontal cortex, a fully grown adult in control of all her functions. I realized, “He still has a hold on me.” I had to then step forward because now I’m aware and I realize it’s no longer on him. It’s now on me. They had a labyrinth in that space, and I decided to do the labyrinth. That was my first time experiencing a labyrinth. It was eye-opening and transformative as you have experienced.

Any type of transformative experience is this a-ha moment. I proceeded to forgive myself for having him have such control over my mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual bodies. Because I released and let that go, it opened my energy to forgive him. Without anger or any judgment, it was like, “I let you go.” I wrote a letter and I said, “I let you go. I no longer hold you anywhere in my mind, body, and spirit. I send you love, but I love me more.”

What you’re saying to him is, “I don’t let go of your actions. They just don’t rule me. They don’t control me anymore.”

A lot of people will misconstrue forgiveness with that even with the boundaries. There are healthy and not healthy boundaries. I talk about this all the time. You have a freaking boundary that is out of defense and that’s unhealthy because you’re not allowing people in. That’s not healthy either.

Talk a little bit about that, a boundary where people are defended that they don’t let people in to help them. Is that what you’re talking about?

I’m always going to come back to my spiritual sense in regards to, “That’s how you feel at that moment. Where is that coming from? Which part of you is speaking? Which part of you erected this wall? That’s who we need to talk to.” There is so much more to it. However, there are healthy and unhealthy coping mechanisms. There are many in the spectrum. You have to recognize what’s working for you and what’s no longer working for you. What used to work for you may not work for you now. It’s very important. This is why therapy, talking, and working with others is important because it gives you a different perspective.

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Life Healing Lessons: There are healthy and unhealthy coping mechanisms. You have to recognize what’s working for you and what’s no longer working for you.


I remember when I discovered how angry I was with my mom as a young woman. Even at seven years old, I made a decision, “I will never become my mother. I will never marry somebody like my father.” I created a boundary that was defensive and angry. I realized that I was pushing and projecting this to others out of that. That wasn’t healthy for me and the relationship I was in. I decided to break that boundary down.

Your anger is being projected onto people. Would you say there were some relationships affected because of that projection?

Yes, but I’m a big proponent and advocate of there are no regrets, whether good or bad, the understanding of non-attachment. What transpired has transpired. You can’t change the past. What you can do is proceed to the future with how you want to perceive it. I did lose some relationships and all of that. Did I apologize? I did like forgiveness for myself. I started doing a lot of forgiveness for everybody. I started asking for forgiveness for everyone. I said, “Forgive me for the person who I was. It is not who I am now.”

You were conscious then. You weren’t aware. Now you were aware.

I wasn’t aware of it then, but I am aware of it now. I will have to do what I need to do at this moment to move forward without attaching and being responsible for everybody’s reaction. I can’t be responsible for their reaction. They can take my forgiveness or apology or not and that’s okay because I know I did that.

Your book is constructive because as you go through all those gifts that came out of your trauma and how you turn them around, it’s inspiring. It is a wonderful role model for people. On that note, what is Krista’s message about the importance of healing? Why should people heal their stuff? You see people all the time. You were filled with rage, struggling to forgive and all that. Why should people do that instead of walking around carrying their grievances with them everywhere they go?

I’m a proponent of healing because you deserve it and you’re worth it. You are worthy of that light and spirit that came prior to your lunch, organs, and human experiences. You were love and joy first. You deserve that. This is the earth’s life. We are meant to experience this life in full capacity. As much as there is grief and sorrow, there’s joy and happiness. As much as there is dark, there’s light. As much as there’s soft, there’s hard. There are many colors and spectrums of every color there is. They’re meant to be experienced and lived in. When we’re stuck, not healing, and not able to experience a full spectrum, we’re missing out. You are living only at 40% capacity.

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You’re living a muted life.

You’re living an adult state of being whereas healing, though we’re pulling all these challenges and you may be going through an emotional ebb and flow, it reminds you, you’re alive. It reminds you, “I do have a choice. I am powerful. I can’t do this. There’s another way of being.” It’s something that you have to experience on your own, and it’s amazing.

People are reading this. You’re inspiring them. They’re buying your book, fascinated, and thinking, “Maybe Krista can help me. Maybe she’s someone I need to work with because I’ve got some stuff. I don’t know how to get rid of it. It’s muting my life.” Tell us about your technique workshops, your private sessions, and the best ways to connect with you. You’ll do all this online because you’re in Texas.

I do it all on Zoom. It is recorded. It takes about 60 to 75 minutes. It’s transformational in all your four bodies, your mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual bodies, that is the sole level of being. You can find me at I’m very loud on Instagram, my social media platform. I’m always encouraging and motivational. I do have my workshops called FACE the Focus, Align, Commit, Execute Technique, which is amazing. It allows you to be aware of your goal, how to align with it, commit and execute.

Are the workshops online or in person?

My last workshop was both. I had in-person and people on Zoom. That was a cool experience. I love it all. I love working with people. My one-on-one is great because it is all about you, and it is about discovering you. It’s the journey of self-discovery and self-mastery. It’s so much fun. It’s amazing, but it’s heavy. A lot of people come to me thinking, “It’s going to be fun. We’re going to find something out.” It’s like, “Get ready for the box of tissues because it is going to happen.”

There’s a lot of pain.

We’re not trying to get rid of the pain. We’re trying to transform the pain. We’re going to shift that feeling into something that it’s meant to. Sometimes we get stuck at that moment, but it’s we’re supposed to continue to move forward with it.

Keep going forward and understand what that looks like. Your tip for finding joy in life is to, “Never settle for someone else’s perception of perfection.” I love that. Would you please explain that to us?

It was trendy. The trend of like, “Nobody’s perfect. Embrace your imperfections,” and stuff like that. I’m going, “Your perfect in your own right. Their perception is theirs. They’re perfect in their own right too.” Everybody’s perfect in their own right. What we need to do is stop comparing and trying to embody somebody else’s way of being. Your perception of perfection is yours and no one else’s as much as theirs. Don’t ever settle for anything less than that.

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People admire someone, and they want to be like that person. They’re missing something because they need to be who they are.

There’s nothing wrong with being inspired. I’m inspired all the time. I’m inspired by you, by the people I meet, by the clients, and by birds. I’m inspired by everything. I’m inspired by it all, but I blended with who I am. I don’t change who I am. That’s important.

Your book Indestructible: The Hidden Gifts of Trauma is such an impressive and inspirational memoir of your life journey. It has been heroic. It’s amazing, wonderful, and inspiring how you turned your challenges and struggles into these powerful life lessons that anyone and everyone could learn from. From my heart, thank you for sharing your remarkable healing story with all of us.

I thank you for this incredibly wise and very fascinating interview. Readers, make sure to follow us and like us on social at @IreneSWeinberg on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter. On YouTube, make sure to click subscribe so you’ll never miss an episode like this one with Krista. To be continued. Many blessings. Thank you so much Krista, and bye for now. 


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