Jane Asher is a natural connector. She got her start in the media world through radio in Michigan, traveled west to work at legendary radio stations, and received the prestigious Marconi Award for her work on Smooth Jazz KIFM. When anyone asks Jane what she does for a living, she responds: “I connect inspired people with one another, especially those with a desire to help others.” Jane has been involved in many international missions. After years in broadcasting, voiceover, and social media, she is now finally answering her true calling, which is writing. Her forthcoming book, The Next Room, deals with her fascination and connection with souls who have transitioned.
IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL HEAR ABOUT THINGS LIKE:
- Why death is meant to be embraced, not feared.
- The inspiring story about Jane connecting with her deceased mom and what Jane constantly finds are undeniable signs from her mom.
- Forgiving is so much more than “for-giving” to yourself to release anger, resentment, and hostility.
- How can we ask our deceased loved ones to help us?
SOME QUESTIONS IRENE ASKS JANE:
- What inspired your fascination with life after life?
- What happens when we leave our bodies to go to “The Next Room?”
- Given what we have learned about transition, do you think how we view death as a society is outmoded?
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Jane Asher Reaney Broadcaster, Voiceover And Social Media Pro, Humanitarian, Host Of The Next Room On EmpowerRadio.com And Writer
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Our guest, Jane Asher, is a natural connector. She got her start in the media world through radio in Michigan in 1980. She soon traveled West and has worked at legendary radio stations there. She also received the prestigious Marconi Award for her work on Smooth Jazz KIFM. Her natural curiosity led Jane to expand her business by including marketing and social media. When anyone asks her what she does for a living, she responds, “I connect inspired people with one another, especially those with a desire to help others.” Jane has been involved in many international missions.
After years in broadcasting, voiceover, and social media, she is now finally answering her true calling, which is writing. Her forthcoming book deals with her fascination and connection with souls who have transitioned. Jane, it truly is my pleasure to welcome you to the show. You’ve interviewed me on your radio show, The Next Room. Now it is my honor to interview you on my show. We both certainly do share a passion for connecting inspired people who have a desire to help others as well as a fascination about life after death. Let’s begin what is going to be an incredibly enlightening interview by sharing with our audience what ignited your fascination about life after life.
First of all, thank you for that beautiful introduction, Irene. It’s completely my pleasure to be here. I love speaking with you, and it’s so fun when you connect with people who have a passion that’s similar to yours. What started me on this path? I have to say that as a very young child, I was fascinated. I don’t know why, but my mother fed my necessary urges to read and my imagination. I would sit for hours and read anything I could get my hands on. I loved anything that had to do with a supernatural vibe back then. Now, it’s completely normal and natural for me.
It started at a young age, and my parents were cool. They didn’t tell me I couldn’t think certain things. I was raised in a button-down Christian environment. As I grew and started coming up with my own ideas and meeting different people along my path, they were fascinated as well. They were open to listening to what I had to say about what I felt was important about connecting with those who have gone before us. It was a lot of nurturing. I’ve met so many fascinating people. It’s such a big huge journey that we’re on that we have to embrace. We have to understand that it’s not just this life experience we’re having right now. This is way too tiny. It keeps going and going.
I think it’s wonderful that you had parents who were so enlightened because I know a lot of kids who are psychic or they see things or whatever. Their parents poo-poo it and then they shut it down. You were lucky. On the other hand, I’ve also seen parents who see their child’s gift, encourage it, and nurture what a difference. That child usually grows up to serve others, which is wonderful. You’ve got this radio show called The Next Room. On it, you take people on a soulful journey to explore and embrace the bigger picture surrounding life on Earth and what follows. Please tell us about your show and give us a glimpse into this new book you’re writing called The Next Room.
It’s fun. I have a radio background. I was in terrestrial radio since I was a young girl in my twenties. I love the medium. I love the web of connecting with people. I’ve met so many fascinating people. Here we are, flash forward, it’s 2019 with this whole podcast thing. A couple of years ago, my husband said, “You have the studio. Why don’t you do your own show? Why don’t you do a show on your terms? Why don’t you do a show about your passion instead of going to a radio station and having a boss say, ‘Here’s what you’re going to talk about.’”
You’re going to do these news stories, which would drive me crazy because I’m so intuitive and I’m such an empath that news affects me, especially the type of news that they want you to do. They want you to do the blood, the guts, and the gore. Everything that’s on fire and brimstone. It’s not my energy. I shut down when I’m around that. About four days later, he handed me an article. It must’ve been more than a couple of years ago. It must’ve been about four years ago, and it was about podcasting.
One thing led to another, and then a friend of mine called me and said, “You should do a podcast.” The ball got rolling and I started doing a podcast about other people’s passions. I loved it. It was a lot of fun. After about a year, it fizzled out. I told the network that I was working with in Power Radio that I said, “I’m not feeling it. I feel like I have to beg people to do the interviews.” He said, “Why don’t you do something that you’re passionate about?” I went on hiatus and I was writing. At that time, I was writing The Next Room, the book. I was writing all the time.
All of a sudden, it hit me and I thought, “Why don’t I do a show about death, dying, grief, and connecting with souls that have gone before us? What is next? What is in that next room and every facet of it?” I’m open to speaking to an atheist because they do not believe that there is an extra room. They think it just ends. I find that fascinating. I will talk to anybody from any walk of Earth who wants to talk about green funerals, getting prepared, or how to honor our loved ones. That’s what has happened over the past year. It’s been a fascinating run. I absolutely love it.
I meet so many great people like yourself who have a message and who have connected with their loved ones, and they want to talk about it. There’s nothing wrong with it. It’s not weird. It’s not woo-woo. It’s daily that I meet normal people who say, “You know what happened to me? So and so came to me in my dreams. So and so left me a coin. I keep finding feathers.” It happens all the time. Messages come in at an alarming rate. We’re just not paying attention.
I’m finding this. In talking with people about this as I am, are you starting to take away the fear of death for people?
Yes, 100%. No doubt about it. I will talk to people about what is next. I talk to my children about it extensively. Everything is in order. By embracing the actual physical part of death, it allows you to free up and live. If you are not afraid of what’s around the next corner, and you realize, or at least in my limited scope, what I feel is that we keep living and change energy forms.
Life continues on into the next room. I have no fear of it whatsoever. I don’t think because I’m talking about it. I’m going to bring it about. I think that I’m going to live a long, healthy, and vibrant life while I’m here, and then someday, I will move on to the next room. I talk to my kids about it all the time. They’re in their early twenties. They know. It’s like, “Here’s where everything is. Here’s this. I’m organizing everything so you guys can come and celebrate. I’ll see you when I see you.”
It’s so interesting because it’s like you’re my soulful twin. I’ve done the same thing with my family. I have a dear mom who is going to be 95. We are able to talk about this all the time because we’re not coming from fear and we both know that eventually, this cycle will end for her, but it will not be over when it’s over. I always joke around and I say, “Mom, we’ll have so many mediums calling you. When that time comes, you won’t have time to be dead on the other side. Believe me.”
We’re all going to die. It’s just a matter of how and when. If we get comfortable with it and we go, “Okay,” and then embrace life, it makes you wake up each morning. My first thought every morning is, “Thank you.” When I open my eyes, I’m like, “Cool. I’m here. This is good. It’ll be a beautiful day.” I then go from there. It helps you to appreciate this beautiful experience that we have, this very tactile, very physical, it smells good, it tastes good, it feels good. You get to hug.
There are all kinds of stuff. I’m not sure about the next room, so I want to have as much juicy goodness now here because I’m not sure how it works there. I’m soaking it all up while I’m in this life experience because I know we won’t repeat this, or at least I feel intuitively we don’t repeat this particular. I’m never going to travel through here. It’s not going to be Jane Asher Reaney traveling through here.
Jane, please tell us your story about working with a psychic and also share with us your very inspiring story about your deceased mom, including your connections with her, which have to be so precious.
My mother transitioned on October 1st, 2010. By far, I had experienced grief, but nothing to this magnitude. Certainly, my best friend, my biggest supporter and cheerleader, is an absolutely stunningly beautiful, powerful, cool woman. Mom left and I was swimming and drowning in grief. I don’t even remember probably the first year she was gone. I had to force myself to eat. I literally couldn’t taste food. It was severe. I didn’t know. I’d never had it before. Finally, I did wake up and I had to because my dad, who was married to my mom for 62 years before she transitioned, needed me, so I had to continue on for my dad’s sake.
Shortly after she left, I randomly started finding dimes. I’m finding them everywhere. I find them walking out of Target. I find them when I’m in the seat of my car. When I’m walking through the church parking lot, there’s a beat-up one. I’m finding them all the time. I’m telling my friend, Jay-Jay, my producer at that time, about it. He said, “Are you writing it down?” I said, “No, but I am now.” I was at the radio station. I swung over to grab a pad of paper and something shiny caught my eye. I looked.
Underneath the board of the radio station is one shiny dime. I bend down. I’ve got goosebumps all up and down my arms. I grab the dime. I swung around and I said, “Jay-Jay, look.” He goes, “Hi, mom.” That started me on my path of writing it down. I started documenting. I started taking pictures when I would find them. I started writing about them. I wrote a short story. I’m like, “Why am I writing a short story? I need to connect with my friend Pam.” We have a mutual friend, Pamala Oslie.
She has been on this show, by the way. She’s amazing.
She is beyond amazing. Pamala is a renowned psychic based out of Santa Barbara. She is so tuned in, but she was a dear friend of mine. I’ve known her since I lived in Santa Barbara when I was a young gal in my early twenties. We were pals more than she was someone I would call for psychic advice. Through my mom’s passing, she was instrumental in helping my dad through his grief. Dad was 83 at that time. Here’s this 83-year-old man who lost his soulmate. He basically wants to crawl into the casket with her. We tell him, “You’ve still got kids, grandkids, and great-grandkids. Snap out of it.”
He comes out to see me to spend some time with me. He says, “Do you think your friend would talk to me?” I said, “Dad, you’re going to have to get clear about that. I’ve got millions of friends.” He said, “The one that’s a seance girl.” I started laughing. I said, “You mean my friend Pam?” He’s like, “Yeah.” I connect him with Pam. I’m making dinner. He’s in my backyard. He’s on the phone. Pam does this as a favor because she’s pretty expensive. She’s not expensive, but she’s worth every penny.
Anyway, she talks to my dad as a favor to me because she loves me. I go out after about a half hour, tears are streaming down his big cheeks and I’m like, “What have I done? Dad, are you okay?” He said, “She was here.” I said, “What do you mean?” He goes, “Your mother, she was here.” He goes, “Come on quick, we have to go listen.” He gets up. We come out to this very studio. Pam had sent a recording. Lo and behold, my mother was there. She had all these beautiful messages for my dad. I had no idea this was going to happen. Through Pam connecting my dad to his soulmate, whom he had lost six months earlier, it helped him heal in such a powerful way.
It was like he had gone to a counselor for two years straight. It lifted his spirits. He realized that my mom was still with him and that she saw everything. She told him specific things that were going on with the family and things to worry about, things not to worry about. It was beautiful. She had messages for me through that too. That started me on my path of knowing, “Here’s this person who I was incredibly close with, and I’m now even closer to her, even though she’s in the next room.”
That’s a wonderful story. I have to say I have a similar story that happened to me with my deceased husband. I also want to tell everyone Pamala Oslie is truly fantastic. She was the one who started me on my journey. When certain things were happening to me, she helped me to identify what was going on and what this new path was that I was supposed to be on. I cannot recommend her more highly to everyone. I forget exactly which episode she is, but look her up. She talks about colors in life. She’s an incredible medium and a psychic. We share that too, Jane. We share Pamala. You have learned so much about life after life. What have you learned is next for us after life on this planet? Have you got any clues?
I can tell you what I think intuitively and what I feel I know inside of me, but that’s only my truth. Take it for what it’s worth in a grain of salt. I feel as though we continue on. Once we’re no longer in need of this suit that we’re wearing, this body, and it goes back to the Earth or however you choose or wherever it’s going to go. I think immediately, our spirit and energy transform and literally go into the next room, but we’re still in touch with it. We can still communicate. There’s not a doubt in my mind that I can communicate with every single soul that has gone before me, whether I knew them on this side or not. I feel it. I talk to the souls that have gone before me all the time.
My husband knows now. He is like, “She’s either talking to hummingbirds or a dead person.” It’s just the two of us. My kids are gone and I do it all the time if I need help with something. For instance, if I’m putting a necklace on and I can’t quite get the clasp, I’ll say, “I sure could use somebody’s nimble fingers right now.” That necklace goes right on. If I’m trying to fix something with a screwdriver and it isn’t going, I’ll say, “Uncle Doug,” because he was super handy with his hands. If it’s something to do with electronics, it’s my dad. If it’s something in the kitchen, as simple as flipping over a fried egg and I always break the yolks, it’s by calling my Grandma Harmon because she was a farm girl. She always used to gather eggs out of the chicken coop. I’ll go, “Grandma, I could use your help,” then it’s perfect eggs.
I’m going to try that.
I ask for help all the time. It’s so beautiful. Maybe people go, “She’s a crackpot.” I don’t care anyway. If nothing else, it invokes a beautiful memory of a soul that’s gone before us and then you’re giving them the grace and another beautiful memory and energy. If nothing else, to bring their name into consciousness that day is a beautiful thing.
I couldn’t agree more. I think being able to communicate with your deceased loved ones actually enhances your relationships with people in the body in your life. There’s no way your husband is threatened by this at all. Just because you’re communicating with your mom or other people doesn’t mean you don’t completely cherish him on this side and recognize the blessing of him in your life. I find the same thing.
My mom is leaving dimes for everyone now. For instance, you will now probably start finding dimes. When you do, just say, “Hi, Betty, or Hi Jane’s mom.” My friends found them. My daughter finds them. My son finds them. My husband finds them all the time. If I haven’t found one in a long time, I’ll say, “Mom, what’s the deal? I haven’t found a dime in a while.” I literally said that the other day. It was almost like, I’m like, “Tom, did you put that in my path?” It’s that quick that things happen when I ask for it. She’s very good. I’m like, “Mom, you’re tricky.”
She’s great. Do you have any idea why? I’ve heard other people are left dimes also. Do you have any thoughts about why it’s dimes, not quarters, not $50 bills?
That’s so funny, because I said to my dad, “When you go, a $100 bill would be nice.” He loved that. He laughed. There are a couple of things that I found intriguing after she left. I named my daughter Betty. My mother was not an Elizabeth. She was Betty Marie. Our daughter’s name is Betty in honor of my mom. She looks like my mom. She has blonde hair and blue eyes. She and my mother had this amazing connection. Betty was fortunate that she got to know my mom until she was fifteen. They had a connection.
Betty was fascinated with this paperweight when she was a little girl and my mother gave it to her. Irene, do you know that I didn’t realize for several years after my mom was gone, I was in there and my daughter’s in college now up in San Francisco, and I’m dusting Betty’s room. I picked up the paperweight and it was almost like somebody could have punched me. It’s a plexiglass paperweight with dimes in it. It’s beautiful that my mother had given my daughter, Betty. I don’t know if it’s her way or her significance. As one psychic said, it might mean calling home. Somebody else thought it was like, “Here’s a dime.” I’m not sure. I don’t know. If somebody knows why my mom is leaving me dimes, I would be very interested.
That makes sense to me, because the other person I know who always left dimes, her father had a five-and-dime store. That’s her connection. She always finds times interesting how they do that. I find my husband has an amazing sense of humor. Things come through that are very funny that have to be from him. A guy who was dating suddenly told me he was attracted to this one men’s cologne. It was my husband’s cologne. I was like, “What a funny guy you are.” It was a pure giveaway.
Those are the signs that so often people dismiss. I think that if we open up to receive and say, “Divine, Holy Spirit, what are the signs? I’m open to receiving signs from my loved ones.” I truly believe once we do that, different things start happening.
Do you think that the way we view death as a society is outmoded, given what we’ve learned about transition?
Yes, I do, 100%. I think we’re getting better. Let me change that a little bit. I do believe that we are starting to have more education, more gentleness, and more grace around transitioning. It used to be back in the olden days. It’s getting back to that way where we would honor the body. It was a home situation where we were there. Instead of now, a lot of times, the person dies and then we pack it away, take it off to a morgue, and embalm it, which you don’t even need to do anymore. The family who’s left are going, “Where’s that person I love?”
I do believe that we are getting better. It is very outmoded, but I’m finding that, especially in the last year, leaps and bounds, it’s coming to where more and more people are. There are more books about it like the funny little book, I’m Dead, Now What? That’s hilarious. I’ve got this one, Making Friends with Death. This is a great book. There are all kinds of fun books that deal with this to help us understand and not have that fear. It’s like, “Don’t be afraid. Get up. Embrace the day that you have.” When the time comes that you transition, rejoice because you’re going to be reconnected with a lot of cool people who have gone before you.
I don’t know about you, but I’ve ordered a party with champagne.
We’ve told people how they can communicate with their loved ones once they pass. Could you also share with our audience some of the special ways we can honor our loved ones once they’ve exited to the next room?
Yes. For me, I’ll tell you what I’ve done. I’ve had four big losses. I’ve had my mother. My sister Lynn tragically died. My dad passed. Of course, my beloved dog. What I’ve done is I’ve taken my favorite picture of each one of those individuals with me in the picture, and they’re right on my desk. I see them and then I have a candle in front of each one. With Mom, I have a thing of dimes next to hers. With my sister Lynn, I have an egg because she gave it to me and she collected eggs. That was her thing. With my dad, I had his challenge coins. I liked their candles.
I’ll say, “Good morning, mom. Good morning, dad. Good morning, Lynn. Good morning, honey. How are you guys today? I welcome any conversation. If you guys want to point me in the right direction with my book, I’d appreciate it. If you have something I haven’t thought about, send me a message.” It’s amazing the things that come through. People say, “Those are your thoughts.” Are they my thoughts or are they the help and the guidance of those who have gone before me and who now see the bigger picture and can educate me and help me in a different way?
Things come to me and I know exactly which person it is. I’ll look up at the picture and I’ll go, “Thank you.” Lynnie will come to me. She taught me so many things. She’s my big sister. She was super pragmatic. No BS at all in her game. She was a force to be reckoned with. Very no-nonsense advice comes from her. From my mom, it’s a bigger, greater connection. I’ve enlisted Pam’s help so that I can get this book down as accurately as possible because Pam has a unique way of actually hearing my mom. I hear my mom my way, but Pam is so in tune. She’s a medium and has been for 30-odd years.
She’s so intuitive and so tuned in that she actually can deliver messages from my mother that are huge and beautiful and the things that I’m pulling from her. This book may not be for everyone because it is a pretty wide spectrum of connection, but the messages that my mother are giving me are, “Move forward. Do not fear. Death is not to be feared. It is to be embraced. Keep growing in your knowledge and expand without fear.” She kept telling me, “Keep expanding, keep talking, keep writing, and keep going ahead with what you’re doing because you’re on the right path.”
That’s fabulous. It’s so heartening. I think also the way that the awareness of life after life is growing is also through programs like The Next Room. Programs like this where more and more people are tuning in are starting to talk about it. You’re right, there is a proliferation of books on it and all of that kind of thing. It’s absolutely true. Why is it important to heal before we go to the next room? Do we continue to heal once we’re there? Do you have a message about the importance of healing that you’d like to share with our audience?
I don’t want to be trite and say it’s forgiveness because forgiveness is forgiving to yourself. Say you have a disagreement with somebody and you go through wanting that forgiveness. Once you do, it releases you. By holding onto a grudge, you’re trapping yourself into that old thing where you’re going to hurt yourself. You’re not doing your body any healthy to move forward unless you forgive.
For me, learn as many lessons as possible to keep yourself based on kindness, forgiveness, and a state of grace, wonder, and gratitude. Be absolutely unfledging with your thanks in every facet of everything. Every microcosm that we come in contact with because it’s all living and breathing energy. That’s all we are. People don’t see it like that, but this desk has energy. Everything does.
I do feel that we need to learn as much as possible. Once we transition, I think we have a greater awareness. We’re going to see the bigger picture, but I do believe there’s going to be more education, wonderment, and maybe more choice about where we want to go, what we want to learn, and how we want to embrace. For instance, I know my mom’s energy has expanded so much and she is loving what is happening with her in the next room. She absolutely is 100% fascinated. That makes total sense because her fascination was so grand here. It makes sense that when she would go, she would be super enlightened and right on. This is great.
How can our audience reach you, Ms. Jane, because they’re all going to want to find out more?
An easy thing to do is if you want to be on the show, I’m open. Especially if you want to talk about connections or what’s going on, you can email me. It’s super easy. It’s TheNextRoomWithJane@Gmail.com. Contact me there. I have a Facebook page called The Next Room. I have a Twitter account called The Next Room or simply @JaneAsher on Twitter. I love Twitter because that’s where my writing community is. If you’re a Twitter fan, that’s such a positive and powerful medium to get out messages and connect with other like-minded individuals. That’s been a great source for me.
I wouldn’t be surprised if you heard from quite a few people after this interview.
I would love it.
I would love it too. If I start finding dimes from your mom, I’m definitely going to let. Jane, this is important because everybody needs to know what your tip is for finding joy in life.
First and foremost, this is something that I’ve had to practice. After I rise in the morning, I go outside. I feel nature is where you’re closest to God. Whatever you believe. For me, it’s God. That’s the divine and the great of all. God is everything, in my estimation. I go outside to say good morning to God and to get right. With that, I take a stack of journals. I do Project Miracle every day, which I write down. I have a miracle partner. I’ve been doing it for a year. I write down things that I’m grateful for, even if I’m necessarily annoyed by them. I give thanks for everything. I read my spiritual messages from the universe. I meditate and thank God. I commune with nature by watering my flowers and my plants. I get grounded that way before I do anything.
Before I pick up the phone and do business, I take that. Sometimes it’s fifteen minutes. Sometimes it’s an hour and a half. I’m like, “This was powerful. I guess I needed this.” That time in the morning, it’s the first thing. Before you do anything or make a list of chores, start cleaning a bathroom, or get ready for work, you’ve got to take time to be in a state of gratitude and grace.
I think that’s how you begin your day. It’s with joy, gratitude, and grace. Jane, I can’t thank you enough for this enlightening interview. I’m looking forward to having you back after you’ve completed your new book called The Next Room. We will make a date.
I love that.
No doubt. It’ll contain wonderful new insights for you to share with all of us. Here’s a reminder everyone. Make sure to follow us on social at @IreneSWeinberg on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter. As I often like to say, surely to be continued. This especially applies to Jane Asher and The Next Room. Many blessings, and bye for now.
Thank you so much.
My pleasure. Thank you so much.
- Jane Asher’s book: The Next Room
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- Peter Pauper Press’ I’m Dead, Now What? referenced in this episode
- Judith L. Lief’s Making Friends with Death referenced in this episode
- Pamala Oslie’s episode in Grief and Rebirth Podcast
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