GAR 230 | Sensitivity

Your sensitivity is an extraordinary gift that allows you to tap into your intuition, amplify your vitality, and empowers you to create a beneficial influence on the world. Being a highly sensitive person (an HSP) is a gift that reveals our divinely intuitive natures, amplifies our vibration, and partners our hearts with our minds to uplift the world. This episode’s guest is Medium, Author, Intuitive Coach, and Spirit-Guided Musician Heidi Connolly, who is known as the Celestial Professor, Purveyor of Down-to-Earth Spirituality for Everyday Life, and this very enlightening episode is for everyone who knows an HSP, who loves an HSP, who wants to understand an HSP, or feels lost in their own high sensitivity!

Heidi’s newest book, Elevating Your HSPness: How to Live a High-Frequency Life That Amplifies Your Vibration, Celebrates Your Sensitivities, and Uplifts the World, holds the key to understanding the true meaning of sensitivity. In this illuminating discussion, Heidi reveals how sensitivity is not a curse but a profound blessing that unveils our divinely intuitive natures. She shares her personal experiences as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) identifies four superpowers of the highly sensitive person, and encourages us to embrace our sensitivities as a transformative journey that enriches our lives and makes a positive impact in the world. Don’t miss this captivating episode that will expand your perception of sensitivity and awaken you to your own divinely intuitive nature.


  • Heidi’s transformation and rebirth after the loss of her husband Randy.
  • What inspired Heidi to become a life coach for high sensitives and those grieving deceased loved ones.
  • How each of us can identify if we are a high-sensitive.
  • The four superpowers of the highly sensitive person.
  • How to live a high-frequency life that elevates our vibration.
  • The ways highly sensitive people partner the heart with the mind to uplift the world.


  • What are the common myths that center around high sensitivity?
  • What is a “high-sensitive, and how can each of us determine if we are a “high-sensitive?”
  • What is your guidance for the HSP when it comes to reeling in the superpower called psychic tentacles?
  • What does the superpower known as the Intuitive Guidance System help to transform for an HSP?

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Heidi Connolly: Understanding the True Meaning of Sensitivity – the Fact That it is a Blessing, Not a Curse – Reveals Our Divinely Intuitive Natures as We Partner the Heart with the Mind and Uplift the World.





I hope this finds each of you so very well. I’m here in my studio in West Orange, New Jersey. I am beyond delighted to have this opportunity to interview Medium, author, Intuitive Coach, and spirit-guided musician Heidi Connolly, who will be speaking to us from Olympia, Washington. It feels like a very special homecoming for me to be interviewing Heidi because I’ve already had the pleasure of interviewing her about 2 of her 4 captivating books. In this episode, I’m absolutely psyched to be interviewing her about her newest book titled, Elevating Your HSPness: How to Live a High-Frequency Life That Amplifies Your Vibration, Celebrates Your Sensitivities, and Uplift the World.

I deeply relate to Heidi and her enlightening new book because, like Heidi, I too am a high sensitive, also called an HSP or a Highly Sensitive Person. The great news is that the virtues of being one of the 20% of HSPs in the world are now being recognized, lauded, and applauded. Heidi, who is at the forefront of this movement, has many fascinating insights about the special HSP trait to share with all of us. Before Heidi begins to reveal why being an HSP is a blessing, not a curse, how being an HSP reveals our divinely intuitive natures for what they are, how HSP partner the heart with the mind to uplift the world, and so much more, I want to share some of her background information with you.

After graduating from Harvard University, Heidi became a professional musician, worked as a corporate trainer in human resources, and went on to become the owner of Harvard Girl Word Service, a writing, editing, and self-publishing consultation business. Her path to connecting with the spirit occurred after the death of her husband, Randy, in 2012, when Heidi experienced an awakening, a transformation, and a rebirth. I can relate to Heidi, having experienced the love of spirit through her connections with clients who go from suffering to understanding and peace through creating healing music.

Through her enlightened writing, Heidi wrote Elevating Your HSPness: How to Live a High-Frequency Life that Amplifies Your Vibration, Celebrates Your Sensitivities, and Uplifts the World for everyone who knows an HSP, who loves an HSP, who wants to understand an HSP, or feels lost in their own high sensitivity. Heidi, my fellow HSP, a warm welcome back to the show.

I never know what to say. I look at you, and I want to smile, hug you, and fly to New Jersey.

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What we’re missing is the bottle of wine. That’s it. We’re a little separated. We have West Coast, East Coast over here, but the love is there.

The love is there and carries a clear cross.

Heidi, let’s begin. There are people coming onto the show all the time who haven’t heard your other interviews, so let’s give them a little bit of background information about your path to connecting with the spirit after the death of your husband, Randy, in 2012, and your transformation of rebirth from that.

I know you can relate to it, Irene. It’s so amazing to remember years ago that that’s where I met you at the Afterlife Conference. You had a book and I had a book. We both had husbands who had died and they were speaking to us. It’s a monumental shift for both of us because neither of us expected that. It was a complete lightning strike out of the blue, and for me to start hearing from other spirits and questioning who was t to be without my husband because I had no idea how I was going to survive. I didn’t necessarily want to survive.

There was a lifetime behind me of being a high-functioning, very well-hidden person. I pretended everything was okay when it wasn’t. I had depression, anxiety, fear, and all those things. Randy’s death is everything I plunged into. I fell off the edge. Over time, speaking with him and hearing from him, he’s the one who said, “We have to write a book.” We wrote Crossing the Rubicon. He said to me, “You have to change the way you see me because we still have a partnership, but I’m on the other side. You have to let go of that grief to have rebirth. You have to let go of that so that you can heal because right now, your grief is keeping you trapped and locked into that vibration of misery.”

When I speak to people, and you would agree, tell me if you don’t, that I have found that if you don’t do your healing work, that grief stays stuck in your body, and they have a harder time getting through to you.

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They can’t even get through because it’s like layers and layers of stone built on you. I call it a wet blanket, but it’s more than that because it also weighs you down. It’s so heavy. Once he started to talk to me, the door opened. It wasn’t all fun and games. I’m going to talk about this a little later, but when you have an opening, you don’t know what’s happening. It can feel uncomfortable. It’s not necessarily more uncomfortable than living the life I was living, but it’s manifesting in different ways. It comes to a head. It boils where you can no longer resist who you are and what your gifts are. You can’t resist them anymore. You’re too sick, unhappy, uncomfortable, freaked out, and miserable.

You’re getting offered a lifeline, but you don’t know yet. That’s your choice. Am I going to let them open the store to buy this flute?

That’s exactly right. He started telling me I had to buy a new flute because I hadn’t played in a long time.

Did you hear his voice, or did you get an impression?

I’m mostly Clairsentient, so I feel the information and thoughts come in packets. I get my information through music and in lots of ways. I don’t generally see the spirit in 3D form, but if I were working mediumship with you, I would probably see it on your left. I see your mother and your grandmother there in my mind’s eye. That’s interesting because they’re there.

That’s wonderful. My mom is definitely enjoying this.

That’s how I get it. Sometimes, mostly when it’s Randy, my husband, and when he wants to get me a message, he’ll yell at me. I’ll wake up and hear, “Heidi, it’s time to move.” This is what happened in 2022. I said, “Why? Where am I going?” Within a week, I bought a new place in a whole different state. He’s the one who woke me up in the middle of the night that first time and said, “Get up. We have to write books.” I literally hear his voice. I think it’s coming from someone and there’s no one there. He gets loud. Other spirits come in other ways. Over time, my whole life changed with the writing of that book. I’m learning to appreciate who I am. It took me a long time to get to, “I’m an HSP. What does that mean, writing this book and doing this HSP?”

In that vein, I want to ask you because now you’re a life coach for high sensitives and those grieving loved ones who have transitioned. What inspired you to make this leap to this healing?

It was because people were asking me. I was going along trying to figure out who I was, whether it was a gift and having a psychic opening, but I didn’t call it that. It wasn’t until I worked with a medium in Canada. She contacted me. Randy had contacted her to contact me. I went to work with her and she said, “All the panic attacks you’re having and all the stuff that’s freaking you out is a sign of a psychic opening.”

When everything started to happen and I brought it home with me, people started to ask me and I started to hear from their loved ones. They wanted to know. I said, “I don’t know anything. Don’t ask me.” However, they kept coming. I realized that mediumship is very wonderful, as you know to help people through a grieving process. It’s monumental. Grief is so all-encompassing and affects us all differently. There’s shame, anger, and guilt around it. Missing the person on a physical plane is so powerful. It knocks you on your you know what.

The mediumship helps with that. It’s amazing.

What happened was that the mediumship was the open door to, “You are struggling so much because you’re so sensitive yourself.” What does that look like for you? Why are you experiencing what you’re experiencing in this profoundly deep way? I know how that is. I started developing the tools that went along with that, and that’s how it became more of a coaching endeavor.

It’s wonderful that you made that because a lot of people need this. I have a grandson who’s the high-sensitive. In his early days, he’d cry at anything. Other people in our world would say, “He’s too sensitive. What’s wrong with him?” Thank goodness he has a grandmother who knows and says, “Are you kidding? He’s like me. I have that trait.” By the way, what I found out is Abraham Lincoln was a high-sensitive. I said, “We’re in very good company.”

I think and I was going to bring this up later, but people like scientists, engineers, actors, and musicians are not 20%. It’s more like 80%, the 80/20, in different ways on the spectrum. It’s resisting it. It’s too much of this, too little of that. You need to be more logical. It’s a terrible thing. I cried my whole life away. Now it takes a lot to make me cry. The kids need to know that it’s great to be who they are.

I told him and he’s proud of it now. He calls me Gaga. He said, “Gaga, I’m so glad that I’m like you. I love you, Gaga. That’s great.” He has two brothers, and I said, “I want you to know that they don’t share your trait.” I’ve also taught his brother, who’s more his age, to understand that. I was like, “There’s nothing wrong with your brother because he’s prompted to tears more often or whatever. You’re both wonderful, but you perceive things in a different way.”

I guess I’m jumping ahead, but that’s why I want to start to call it not a highly-sensitive person. I don’t want to even call it HSP anymore, even though it’s the name of my book. I want to call it Highly-Perceptive Person because sensitivity has that effect on it. It has a sense of being wrong, bad, too this, and too sensitive.

We’re always true. We’re not always true. We come upon things that can be very helpful to people. We sense things that take other people longer to figure out so much.

We can sense truth versus lie. We can sense that, and people will deny it. It’s so easy to say, “You’re wrong. I didn’t pick that up.” We know, and if we develop self-worth enough and confidence in our abilities with these brilliant traits we have, then we start to trust it and then we can work with it.

Everyone is all tuning in and I’m sure they’re on the edges of the seat, “Am I high sensitive?” Tell us how you identify if you’re a high-sensitive, and let’s talk about some of the common myths that center around high sensitivity.

I made a very big inventory or a long list in the book because I wanted it to be so much more inclusive than what I had read about. The most common ones are you feel like a misfit or you’re going through life misunderstood. You feel like whenever you express yourself, people tell you to be more logical, less emotional, you’re from another planet, or you don’t belong. The list includes, “These are me.”

I’m identifying with a lot of them. I’ve been told I’m too true my whole life. I cried at the drop of a bucket that was coming up.

In my flute lessons, I would cry. The teacher would go crazy with me. They’re like, “Heidi, can you stop crying long enough to play the flute?” I couldn’t stop.

I have a family joke. My two grandsons and I went to see Avatar: The Way of Water. My highly sensitive grandson and I were both crying. My other grandson was chewing on a straw. I was able to say, “Here we are. This is our trait. That’s not your trait.” It helped him to be more compassionate to his brother and his grandmother. I was proud of it and I owned it. The one who was highly sensitive was able to walk away and say, “There’s nothing wrong with me. That’s the way I am.”

This thing can help your grandson and kids so much right from the start. We’ll talk about the sponge, the autism, and all that. It changes lives and worlds.

It helps you to accept yourself. It helps other people to accept you for who you are.

The list goes on. You second-guess yourself and find it hard to understand signals from other people. You need more Novocaine at the dentist. I need 6 shots instead of 1 and all those kinds of things. People get mad at you for it. People don’t understand you’re chemically sensitive. You’re this and that sensitive. All those things combined are part of that spectrum of traits.

You don’t have to have all of them, but you can have a bunch of them that identifies you that way. What are some of these common myths that center around high sensitivity?

Number one, it’s bad. It’s terrible. You’re wrong. You’re not perfect. It’s something you have to correct. That’s the worst one. A misconception is that you are less capable. You need to figure out a way to do it differently so that you can fit in better into the world.

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You have to recall that you process things a little differently than other people, wouldn’t you say?

I call it intuitive logic. It’s an intuitive logic system that has to do with all our perceptions and how we process everything that way as opposed to this way. When I use my mind first to figure things out, I am in so much trouble because my mind is saying, “This is right. I researched that and this is the way so-and-so would do it. This is what the newspaper says. This is what the expert says”. No. I have to come from my guidance, my higher self, my gut, and my heart. The heart has to partner with the mind, but that’s only the beginning.

It’s a whole different information. You talk in your book, Elevating Your HSPness, that there are four superpowers of the HSP. I’m all for that. Superwoman, here we are. Please explain the first superpower that you call Emotional Intelligence.

Emotional intelligence is the intuitive logic system. I say this purposefully because the way I want to change the word sensitivity to perception, I also want to change the idea of emotional intelligence to intuitive intelligence. It’s a logical system. Because it comes from a different place, it’s an energetic space does not mean it’s less logical. Unfortunately, we’re talking about all those labels when we talk about emotions. You only have a few of them, like anger, fear, sadness, anxiety, or whatever it is.

I have an emotion. No, this is an energetic tapping into what’s going on within and without. It speaks to a whole different level of consciousness. It speaks to a very different place in yourself that you can access. It’s much better to understand the difference not to use the word emotion because emotion doesn’t even cover the somatics of it. We all know that mind, body, spirit, etc. People talk about emotion as the core that’s affecting it. It’s the somatics of how feeling and emotion, thinking a thought, and having a belief creates this energetic shift in your body for good or not so good for a disease or an illness or not.

That was number one, but number two, you say you have guidance for HSPs. Let’s go to the second. We talked about the intuitive guidance system, right?

A little bit.

Let’s talk about that again and then I want to talk to you about that third superpower because I love this one called Psychic Tentacles. You also refer it to as a psychic octopus. They’re cool. Let’s talk about that intuitive guidance system and this other part.

Developing specific tools was so helpful for me because I have a tool. Now I’m going to practice it. I’m at the gym. Now I’m going to practice it. The intuitive guidance system, the IGS, goes along with the unique energetic signature. They’re like you learn to identify your energetic signature so that you can live there. That’s the place you come from. Whether you’re doing an interview, driving down the street, with your family, or with a tough customer, it doesn’t matter. What you want to do is live from that place. When you are in that place, you can follow your intuitive guidance system, saying, “Go here. Do this and that,” because you’re in that energetic space. It’s so powerful.

You’re saying your intuitive guidance system when you’re in a situation, you get a feeling of the way you should go as opposed to processing it so much in your head, would you say?

Yes, I do. The trick where it turns is, “I’m going down the street and I have a list of things I have to do, but when I get to the light, it doesn’t feel right. My list says I should turn right, but I don’t turn right. If I have to, I’ll make a U-turn.” I’m writing a book now called Psychic Games: Playing With Your Higher Self. The left-right straight is a game where I am driving using that. The list may not happen in the way it was supposed to, but my life will.

Maybe you’re being guided to make that turn because there’s an accident the way you’re being taken.

Many times, you run into people you never thought you’d run into and you get the thing you. It’s a completely different way of living, but you have to learn to trust it to be in that place.

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Now my favorite. Tell us about your third superpower, called Psychic Tentacles. What’s that Psychic Octopus that you refer to in your book?

It’s my favorite too. It saves lives. It saved my life. This is my little octopus. It was given to me by a five-year-old at that time who was learning about the psychic octopus for me. This speaks to your grandson. You start out with the psychic sponge. You can show it to a very young child. Fill a bowl of water and take a dry sponge. The sponge is you. If you put it in the water, you get completely overwhelmed with water. You have to wring yourself out. This is your emotional state. This is the way you feel.

You wring yourself out and now you’re dry again. It’s conceptually the same. With high-perceptive people, we are energetically taking our tentacles the way an octopus does. We’re reaching out and globbing onto the energy in the environment. That includes the environment, places, things, and what’s going on. Even on the internet, you are doing that. With the people, it’s even bigger. You’re globbing onto their energy. I feel your anger, pain, anxiety, fear, and all. No wonder I was a wreck. I felt everybody was everything. Of course, I cried all the time.

You were everybody else.

I never knew my own emotional state. I knew I was a rep because I was taking it all on. Like your grandson, he’s the sponge in the water and it overflows. Where does it go? We have nowhere to put it. When you have your energy in a solid, grounded place, I picture my octopus right here and I say to myself, “I feel that I’m not in my body and I reel in my tentacles.” First of all, I don’t even think it’s ethical. People have a fear of psychic ability thinking you’re going to read their minds. Some people do. I don’t want to do that. I don’t think it’s ethical. When my octopus is in, I’m getting a message from spirit. I’m living with the messages from spirit because they’re in the best interest of all concerned. I am not taking a tentacle and digging in to find out what’s in someone else, and I’m calm.

Would you also call that being detached from other people’s energy from other people’s?

The issue is the difference in my work. The pioneers in HSP are brilliant and they’re the ones who gave us our start in this. It still says you have to put up a barrier. You have to protect yourself against it. The beauty of the octopus is you don’t have to use the energy to protect against it. I could never do that. I was having such a hard time, like a bubble or a wall. I was so exhausted from trying, but this is nothing. I’m living in my little octopus space, and it takes no energy. It takes conscious awareness, but it literally takes no energy.

Once detached, you’re detached, and because you’re sensitive, that’s why you’re perceiving all of this. For someone who’s not so sensitive, it’s not an issue for them, but you’re protecting yourself.

There are a lot of people who don’t know that that’s what’s happening. They are picking up other people’s emotions. Because when they were young and did have some psychic or interesting experiences, they shut it down and were very afraid of it, which is why it’s so important to recognize it is an energetic opening and what you can do about that. I wrote a spirit contract. I don’t want any negativity. In the book, I give an example of my contract, which is, “I want to feel safe and protected. I only want white light beings. My husband Randy is my gatekeeper. I have a waiting room.”

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I kept smelling cigarette smoke in my house and there’s no reason for that. It’s a smoke-free zone. I was on the phone with my friend, who also does a lot of these games with me. She said, “The people in your waiting room are the dead people. You haven’t been opening up to them lately.” They’re sitting there like the old days when his wife is having a baby and he’s puffing on a cigarette. She said, “You’re going to start talking to them again, one at a time. I stopped smelling it and Randy let them through one at a time. I don’t want to be overwhelmed.

I don’t want them to come in the middle of the night and scream at me to get my attention. I want it to be an easy experience. I have never had a negative experience with spirit in all these years. The only people who come in are white light beings who are loving and generous. They’re not always the people that my clients want to see. It will be the abusive stepfather who was there to shift that legacy and make amends. Spirit doesn’t have regrets or want to apologize. As humans, we need to hear that.

I’ve witnessed that many times with spirit coming through to apologize. That’s how you know that it’s that person because how can the medium possibly know what was going on when the spirit comes through to say, “I’m sorry for that last fight I had with you or whatever I said to you.” Let me segue from this into that fourth superpower you talk about, which is called the Unique Energetic Signature. What’s that all about?

There’s a certain exercise that I do with people that is very simple and concrete. Everyone has a truth. When you speak the truth, there’s a profound sense of rightness. When I say, “My name is Heidi Connolly,” I feel that in my body. I feel the truth of that and the connection to it. When you say a lie, you feel the disconnect with that. You can also feel that in your body. Once you do an exercise like this, you recognize that that is your unique energetic signature.

When I’m speaking the truth, I get a whoosh of vertical energy. When I am speaking something that isn’t the truth or picking up something that isn’t the truth, I feel in a numb zone. I can watch the Food Network, and I’ll know who’s going to win because I get this whoosh fireworks thing versus the numb zone. It’s a no-energy place, but you could feel it as a tingle in your nose or a twinkle in your toes. People feel it all different ways.

Sometimes people get a vibration in their hands or in their hearts.

There is a place it happens, and most people are cut off from the head up. They’re in their minds and brains and they can’t even feel in their body. We need to connect the two. I do Couch Talk is what my coaching is called. We put the energies on the couch. You need to know your energy so you can be aware of your surroundings in a way that allows you to move through them. Navigate it without defensiveness because defensiveness is resistance.

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Tell me what inspired you to write your book, Elevating Your HSPness, because you’ve written four books now. Now you’re working on another one, HSP. What’s your advice for living a high-frequency life that elevates our vibration?

It’s so hysterical because when you look at the cover and it says Elevate HSPness, I think there’s an HSPness factor. I started to say HSPness and everyone said, “Do you realize what it sounds like when you say that?” I thought, “We have to learn to be more spiritual.”

I just got that.

Do you just get it now? That’s hysterical.

It never occurred to me. That’s funny.

It’s like those pictures where you can see this or this and half the people see one or the other. Half the people think it’s ness and other people think HSPness. We need to laugh at that uplifting the world. This is about celebration and amplification. Highly perceptive people should run the world because we don’t have to be more vulnerable, more conflicted, and feel bad about ourselves. We are the contributors. We’re the glue that holds the planets together. Without us, there would be nothing but war, disconnectedness, coldness, and fear. We’re the ones who are saying, “Connect. Love. Do it through love. Join me, Be woke. Be sensitive. Think of the other human beings on the planet.”

You described Abraham Lincoln and Mahatma Gandhi, and there are many others for HSPs. When you’re going to elevate your vibration, is that how you’re accepting yourself and thinking through things? Is that what does that as an HSP being more conscious of who you are?

Yes. It’s more conscious about who you are. That comes from going through life in this different way. It means you can’t do it with your brain. Again, it’s a partner. We have to know what we’re doing, but we need to begin to live a different way because who wants to amplify a vibration that sucks.

That’s negative. Now tell us. We’ve learned a little bit of the psychic octopus and the psychic sponge, but you also have this fabulous red story. Tell us how they illuminated the world of the HSP. I loved your red coat story.

I love this story. I don’t have it here, but this is real life for me. When I first started thinking about taking on other people’s emotions, I didn’t understand it. People think you mean you’re compassionate and sympathetic and empathetic, which is true, but they don’t understand you’re living in other people. It’s like, “I am Irene, so I feel everything you’re feeling.” I don’t get a sense of it. I don’t know how you feel that I understand. I’m literally living it. You can drive down the street and the guy next to you is angry. All of a sudden, you’re angry and you don’t know why. Let’s say you’re in a restaurant and you wear your favorite red coat. It’s beautiful and it’s comfortable. You’ve had it for a couple of years.

It’s your best, most happiest place thing to wear. You put it in the front and they hang it up for you. When you leave, they give it back to you and you go home. Three months later, you get a phone call, which happened to me. Someone said to me, “I think you have my coat.” I said, “That’s not possible. How could that be possible? It’s my coat. It has my buttons and a black velvet collar. It flares. It’s so my coat.” She said, “No. I don’t think it is.” I’m getting annoyed. I was like, “How did you even get my number?” I asked her how she got my number and she said Guido from the restaurant gave it to her because he knows both of us. I said, “All right.”

She says, “Look in the pocket. Do this for me, please.” I look in the pocket. “My father gave me something when he died. It’s in the pocket. I know it is and it means something to me.” I said, “The pocket is empty.” She begs me. I look and I feel in the corner a tiny angel. It’s like a little stamped angel. I find it in there and I think to myself, “This isn’t my coat.” I realized that we had taken each other’s coats. That’s how it feels. You are so living in other people. You cannot even imagine that you’re not. You don’t know what it feels like to be in your own energy. You have never been guided.

You don’t know how to separate.

You don’t know what your own feels like. This whole process is saying, “You can’t detach. You can’t separate from it until you know what you feel like.” That’s the work.

That’s the work that you help people with. I want you to share your client’s story. You have this adorable client’s story about this 90-year-old woman who came to you grappling with a lifelong sense of unworthiness four years after the death of her husband and how you helped her so much. Do you want to talk to us about that? You are a healer and you do help people so much.

Thank you, Irene. My sister actually knew this woman and recommended to see me because she was grieving so heavily. This was four years after her husband died. She’s having her 90th or 91st birthday and she comes to see me. Here’s a woman who spent her whole life helping other people. She’s an author. She’s run alternative schools. She’s a brilliant woman. She wrote a book on expressing your emotions but was still tied to her grief. I started to talk to her husband and the first thing that came through was how he was saying how proud of her. He regretted not giving her the space to express herself as much as he had that she didn’t feel the self-worth she should have felt. She was so overwhelmed.

She said it was so true that her husband was the one they focused on. He was the one who was so brilliant. She never felt brilliant. In this ongoing conversation with her husband, she thought she was dealing with, “I’m so sad because he’s gone.” She was feeling a lot of anger and guilt for feeling this way that she never got what she needed in that respect, respect for her intelligence and all that. We dealt with that. He was saying she needed to feel more self-worth and she collapsed. She said, “I never have.” She’s a 90-year-old woman who is high functioning, highly intelligent, highly accomplished, and never felt self-worth and never had self-love.

Were you able to help her?

Yes, because we sat the energy on the couch. We did our couch talk. We identified her signature. It was lightning struck. She said, “I never knew who I was, and now I do.”

Isn’t that wonderful? You’re like a guide with a flashlight. You’re shining a flashlight onto who they are and helping them uncover those darker places inside them.

This is why it’s so important not to do the mediumship. It’s a doorway.

I think people are getting that as we’re discussing it, but how they partner the heart with the mind to uplift the world. I want you to tell everybody about your Highly-Sensitive Person Treatment Breakthrough Course. Anything else you’d like our audience to know about the book, the course, or being Heidi? What would you like to tell us? Tell us about the course first.

The course is eight modules, about 30 minutes each. It covers all these topics to identify and use your unique energetic signature, intuitive guidance system, and psychic octopus. It goes into a lot of detail. I also incorporate guided meditations. In the background is flute music created specifically because music automatically bypasses human resistance. This music is specifically encoded by spirit to integrate the lessons and the information you’re learning naturally and easily. You don’t have to do anything. It’s a guided meditation. The music is there, and then it brings together everything that you heard in the module. You can process it on a deep cellular level without having to work at it. It’s not about work.

Didn’t you tell me that it’s going well? You’ve been getting a lot of tremendous feedback for it.

Yes, from Norway, Africa, the UK and all over. People who finally see the label of HSP somewhere discover they’re in HSP and then don’t know what to do about it because it’s all talk about, “Poor you.” What I want people to know is two things. It’s not about unHSP yourself. Forget about it. You are perceptive. Number two, don’t be a victim of it. It’s not about getting the world to understand you. It’s not about being accommodated like it’s a disability. To me, it seems like a lot of people are saying, “It’s for people to understand us. How should they understand us?” No. It’s about me understanding me and knowing that these are gifts and how to use them in my life every minute of every day.

I have to say honestly, the way you use your HSP with what you’re doing and your teaching people, I feel that one of the reasons that this show is reaching so many people is because I’m an HSP. When I’m interviewing you, I’m honing into who you are and what your needs are. This natural part of me seems to be clicking and connecting with people. I credit that to my HSP.

This is it. It is our talents and abilities and energetic wellspring. If we lock that down, that’s most of us. That’s where we shine. I used to be told when I did more editing and self-publishing that I was channeling people’s messages. That’s why when I could rewrite their books, it sounded like them.

It also gives us tremendous compassion and empathy, which is an HSP trait. One of the reasons I started this show is I don’t want people to suffer. I want them to get healing and give them healing choices. That’s an HSP trait, also.

I would like people to start calling it HPIs, Highly Perceptive Individuals. I’m starting a trend right here and now. That’s what we’re going to call them. Highly Perceptive Individuals because we’re all unique.

To my highly perceptive friend, Heidi, when it comes to healing, please explain your comment that what looks like a duck and quacks a duck is not necessarily a duck.

That’s because we say we get triggered and something bothers me. When you’re a highly perceptive individual, you have a reaction. The reaction is you cough and sneeze. You call them allergies. You feel bad and you cry. You have all these reactions. A lot of them are physical, which turns into real diseases and illnesses. It’s not what it is at all. They’re indicators of your perception that are causing a reaction in your mind, body, and spirit. I was playing a concert when I first started playing again. I was playing along and all of a sudden, I choked. I coughed and I can’t play. The whole group has to stop. I realized I was having a thought that I wasn’t good enough.

I’m in a room with many people. A lot of them are musicians. What right do I have to be here after all these years of not playing? Choke is my indicator that a trigger has happened that’s caused me to have an energetic response. I don’t think to myself, “I’m having an emotion. I feel bad.” No. I say, “What’s the indicator?” The duck is not a duck at all. It is not an emotional response out of nowhere. It is an indicator that I am having a thought and feeling that I need to deal with.

The next is a guide for you when you are aware of what this is and then it becomes a guide instead of a hindrance, a problem, or whatever. You don’t beat yourself up over it. You say, “I understand now what’s going on.” What’s your special offer for all the lovely people in our audience who are tuning into this interview?

I feel them all in advance. I know we’re recording this, but I feel the whole world is tuning in. I have to say kudos to you. I love you. I respect you. I honor you. I hold you in my heart so deeply. Our connection is so profound, and you do so much good in the world. I don’t even know where to begin.

This credit to my highly perceptive being.

It’s so beautiful. You can get my course on my website,, for 50% off and for another two weeks after that, if you can’t manage that, it will be 25% off. It is available. There’s the book you can get, which is great because then you have it in front of you. There’s nothing like a book, in my humble opinion. All my other books are on my website, etc. You can reach me that way. I do coaching and all the rest of it.

By the way, they can take your course and reach out to you for mediumship readings and custom music.

Stop smoking and stop drinking. I have music for blood sugar and heart problems or you can have a customized recording made to address what your spirit team wants to address.

What is the Heidi Connelly tip for finding joy in life? You’ve given them two. You had two tips for joy. Let’s get another one, Heidi.

True joy is unconditional love for yourself and the world. That’s when you change your life.

Heidi, I love this uplifting quote from Elevating Your HSPness: How To Live High-Frequency Life that Amplifies Your Vibration, Celebrates Your Sensitivities, and Uplifts the World. The quote is, “It’s up to us, the HSPs of the world, to lead the way with the gifts each and every one of our heightened sensitivities with which we have been blessed.” To this, I had my heartfelt bravo. Thank you for this truly delightful, always an insightful interview that has removed unenlightened stigmas and inspired HSPs to shine their uplifting light in the world. Make sure to follow us and us on social at @IreneSWeinberg on Instagram, Facebook, and wherever you get your podcasts. As I like to say, to be continued. Many blessings. Thank you, Heidi.

Thank you.

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