GAR 228 | Spiritual Alignment

 

Harmony Kwiker is a psychotherapist, a professor of transpersonal counseling, the Founder of the Institute for Spiritual Alignment, and the author of two important books titled Reveal: Embody the True Self Beyond Trauma and Conditioning and her most recent book titled Align: Living and Loving from the True Self. Her purpose and mission is to bridge the divide between traditional and spiritual transformation by inspiring people to consciously heal and transform their lives, because when we are in alignment, life flows, it feels right to be alive, and relationships flourish!

 

In this episode, you’ll hear about things like:

  • Harmony’s spiritual awakening when she was 22 years old and the miraculous spiritual transformation she has experienced throughout her life.
  • The difference between living and loving from the conditioned self and living and loving from the true self.
  • The types of issues transpersonal psychology addresses.
  • Why it isn’t selfish or self-centered to focus on personal development, and why, when we heal, the whole world heals with us.

 

Some questions Irene asks Harmony:

  • What is the difference between having a relationship and being in a relationship, and what is the difference between being in an unconscious relationship and being in a conscious relationship?
  • What is the difference between a spiritual awakening and spiritual transformation?
  • How do the vibrations of our subtle energy body become mistuned by life and form blockages in our energy centers?
  • What is the connection between spirituality, consciousness, and healing?

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Harmony Kwiker: Living and Loving from the True Self Through Spiritual Alignment, Consciousness, and Healing

 

 

 

 

 

I hope this finds each of you so very well. I’m at my studio in West Orange, New Jersey, and I could not be more delighted to have this opportunity to interview Harmony Kwiker, who will be speaking to us from Longmont, Colorado. Harmony is a psychotherapist, a Professor of Transpersonal Counseling at Naropa University in Boulder, Colorado, and the Founder of the Institute for Spiritual Alignment, which offers training opportunities for therapists, coaches, and anyone who wants to learn more about the healing potential of a trauma-informed spiritual container. She is also the author of two important books titled Reveal: Embody The True Self Beyond Trauma and Conditioning and Align: Living and Loving From the True Self.

When she was six years old, Harmony began practicing transcendental meditation, and during her meditation practice, she was given a vision of her life. She knew at that moment that she was here to be a healer, an author, and a teacher. At the same time, she started noticing that she could see subtle energy, vaporous darkness, and/or lightness around people’s physical bodies. She would place crystals on people who were holding a lot of dark energy, and she was dedicated to learning how to help them move through it.

Throughout her life, Harmony has experienced a miraculous transformation. However, none of it occurred in a traditional psychotherapy setting. Her purpose and mission, which is to bridge the divide between traditional and spiritual transformation through the education of therapists, coaches, and anyone who is interested in the transpersonal, is beautifully in sync with the mission of this show. That is to educate and enlighten people about healing choices that can help to heal trauma, the importance of healing, and the importance of living a conscious life.

I’m looking forward to talking with Harmony about her spiritual awakening. What is a trauma-informed spiritual container? The connection between spirituality, consciousness, and healing, spiritually-aligned relationships, why our healing is necessary for the healing of the planet, her new book, and so much more for what is going to be an insight-filled interview that will surely both inform and transform us. Harmony, a warm welcome to the show. I feel like you’re singing my song.

Thank you so much for having me here. It was delightful to hear that introduction.

 

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You’re terrific. The more I kept reading, I said, “I’m so excited to have her on the show. She’s going to enlighten so many people with what she does and what she knows.” Let’s start from the beginning because you were four years old and you had a traumatic event that affected your sense of self and then you developed a false mask. This is the beginning of the story that you presented to the world as a result of that trauma. Do you want to tell us about that?

In my early life, there were two major traumas that I experienced. When I was four, my parents got a divorce and my sister came in and told me it was all my fault. She was young too, was in pain, and wanted to blame somebody. I believed her. I believed that my presence on the planet caused so much disruption and pain that people left and families broke apart because I was here.

Entwined in that was also a trauma that I was unaware of, which is an old head trauma, a near-death experience that I had when I was an infant. I was five months old when I fell off the top bunk of a bed and I hit my forehead on the dresser on my way down. I left my body because I was in so much pain. In both instances, when I was 5 months old and when I was 4 years old, I didn’t have language to give to my pain. I didn’t have words to describe how I was making meaning about what was happening and how my developing sense of self was being impacted by such trauma.

Quietly, in the privacy of my own mind, I started developing this conditioned sense of self that essentially told me, “Always be accommodating. Everybody else is more important than you. Hide your pain. Be as happy and as unobtrusive as possible.” I quieted my voice. I hid everything that was happening inside of me. I became so skilled at hiding and adjusting to the needs of the people around me, and I was praised for it. People loved how accommodating I was.

We are girls who have trauma. I had the same experience. You become like this perfect little kid trying to make everything wonderful. Where is all that pain going? That’s what we’re going to be talking about. How did you get into transcendental meditation when you were only six years old? You received a vision that put you on your life path, and how were you when you got that vision? Tell us about that.

Both of my parents are progressive healers and my mom, after the divorce, dove into her own personal growth and healing and who she was as a coach and a teacher. She was very interested in transcendental meditation. I would sit near her when I would see her practice. I was very drawn to the spiritual and the transpersonal at a very young age. She asked me if I wanted to be initiated and get my own mantra.

I was excited, nervous, and scared. I remember so clearly when we drove up to the meditation center, meeting the guru and wanting to hide, regretting, and having all of this fear. There was this kindness and this purity in his eyes. I was initiated and offered my mantra. For those listening who don’t know, transcendental meditation is the practice of focusing on a mantra as the anchor of the meditation.

You’re given the mantra that you repeat, which is usually about one word in Sanskrit, and you’re not supposed to tell anybody. It’s a secret. I had this secret mantra. I was such a disciplined child. I’m a Capricorn. I was disciplined in and of myself. My mother didn’t need to tell me to practice, and I would sit alone in my room and repeat my mantra.

In transcendental meditation, the mantra said to facilitate you accessing higher states of consciousness. To my surprise, as I sat alone in my room, I was six years old and I heard this deep, resounding voice from inside of me. The voice said, “All of this pain has a purpose. All of this pain has meaning.” At that moment, this image appeared in my mind’s eye and it was of the earth.

 

 

I was being shown how all of the people on the planet were moving in the direction and service of planetary restoration and the highest good of humanity. I had this glimpse of my future self. I knew I was here to be a teacher, author, and healer. I didn’t know exactly what that meant at the time, but I felt connected to a purpose to serve and to be of service to humanity.

That was a tremendous gift to you at such an early age. There are people who are in their 80s, they still look at you for who they are. That’s amazing. You also had a spiritual awakening that occurred when you were 22 years old. Do you want to describe that spiritual transformation that kicked off a spiritual transformation throughout your life?

Even though I had these practices at a young age and I was given this beautiful message, I struggled a lot. With my accommodating personality, I was hiding my pain and it was being held in my body. I was extremely overweight and I had scoliosis. I was involved in a lot of unhealthy relationships. In my early twenties, when I was in college, I was depressed and I was trying to find where my worth was.

I was, “I’ll stop eating, become perfectionistic, and get all the good grades.” I was trying so hard to find my way. Again, I was fortunate. A family friend asked me if I wanted to work at their yoga studio. I started working and practicing yoga and became certified. When I was 22, I was teaching yoga and I had this anchor in my meditation practice. I would sit in meditation for two hours a day and I would practice yoga for about two hours a day.

Were you still saying your mantra?

I had let go of that practice. I was focusing more on my breath and anchoring into my breath and my breathing. There was this moment when I was deep in suicidal ideation. I didn’t want to be here. I was in so much pain. I’ve had chronic pain my whole life from that fall. I was emotionally suffering. I felt lonely and unworthy. I had finished teaching a yoga class and I went home and I decided to sit with my pain.

I didn’t have any real guidance on what that meant. I was an exploration and a discovery. With my inner eye looking around at my depression, my sadness, and my thoughts of unworthiness, I began to wrap these parts of myself with love, compassion, and curiosity. I can cry thinking about it. In that experience, I opened up to a part of myself that I didn’t know was there and a vital force was flowing through me. This awakening was so powerful for me.

In all honesty, I was a little manic because I didn’t know what to do with all of this wisdom that was flowing through me and this excitement for life. It was such a drastic change from depression and suicidal ideation to feel this glow. The people in my life said, “I can see you’re glowing.” I was vibrant and I was light. It took me many years to learn how to embody that in a deeper way for my transformation.

As a personal aside for me, because a lot of people reading this know about my spiritual awakening. When I got that message of, “Be loving and kind to everyone,” they took me and I was transported to the hospital. I had one sister-in-law who was spiritual. We thought she was out of her mind. When she came to visit me in the hospital, she told me that there was a whole difference in my vibration. She could tell. Nobody else was aware of it because we were all involved with the surgeries and all this. My whole being, she said, was completely transformed and she can see it in my aura and in everything. It’s very similar.

Please educate everybody as to what is transpersonal psychology versus spiritual psychology. It’s also known as spiritual psychology. What kinds of issues does transpersonal psychology address? It’s different from straight therapy or straight energetic work. It’s worth a combination. Would you want to educate us about that, please?

Yeah. Transpersonal psychology honors states of consciousness beyond the ordinary as a normal healthy expression of humanity. Unexplainable spiritual experiences are seen as normal and welcome. In transpersonal psychology, we’re looking at the way that a person identifies with their personality, thinks that that’s who they are, thinks that they are, their ego believes the thoughts in their mind, and we’re supporting them in differentiating from that part of themselves.

It’s not about creating happier thoughts or healthier behaviors. In some traditional psychotherapy settings, a therapist might try to help you solve a problem or come up with a different thought to replace that thought. In transpersonal psychology, we believe that the work is about recognizing that we aren’t our thoughts. Who we are is so much bigger, deeper, and more powerful than the mind. The mind can be a useful tool and it’s important obviously, but it’s about the differentiation from the persona and also honoring our spiritual self as essential and integral to our healing, our wellness, and our well-being.

 

 

That’s beautiful. I’m touched by that whole concept because so many of us identify with our mind and that’s who we think we are. What you would say getting conscious is knowing that there is so much more to you and this personality is a manifestation in this lifetime to serve you. Would you say that is correct?

Absolutely. I also think that embedded in the personality are our conditioned ideas about whom we think we are. As I was sharing before when I was four, creating these ideas about who I think I am, if I identify with my personality as who I believe that I am, then I’m being guided by patterns of self-betrayal, being accommodating, and making other people more important and being codependent in my relationships.

Tell us about the difference between a spiritual awakening and a spiritual transformation. Could you give us some common experiences that lead to spiritual transformation besides mine? You had them too, but in your experience, in your world, could you explain that to people?

Through my lens, spiritual awakening is a peak experience. It’s a sudden remembering. It’s like when we’ve forgotten who we are for a very long time and all of a sudden, we’ve awoken from a deep slumber. It’s like the veils have been lifted and we can see so clearly and it’s a very exciting peak experience. Some people will call it a spiritual emergency. When you don’t know how to be with the spiritual awakening, people can end up in a mental institution. It can become pathologized in some way.

Recognizing that it’s a normal part of the human experience is important. Spiritual transformation is a more embodied and integrating experience that occurs when we differentiate between our personality and our ego. We bring in what I call awake awareness into our whole being and integrate anything that’s in our shadow, any unresolved experiences from the past. We learn how to be with ourselves in our wholeness and from our essence in an embodied way.

Would you say it’s more like the acceptance of the totality of who we are as opposed to compartmentalizing a particular part of who we are?

Yes. I love the way you said that because with that, we are welcoming our ego. It’s not about vanquishing our personality or vanquishing our ego. It’s when we recognize that that’s not who we truly are, we can welcome that and integrate that back into the wholeness of our being in the expression of our health.

Give us the connection between spirituality, consciousness, and healing. Now we’re getting to the good stuff. We want to talk about how this all helps us to heal this huge container that embodies everything of who we are. Can you please tell us about that and then we’ll go on to trauma-informed spirituality?

Healing implies that there’s wounding. This comes from my own experience as an individual, but also in my years as a psychotherapist and a teacher, I see people split from their spiritual selves when they experience a big trauma or a wound. It’s very common to split from their spiritual self and try to find safety in the world around them because they’re scared because the trauma had them feel so unsafe. If, like in your story, we’re able to stay connected to our spiritual sense of self while we’re experiencing trauma or wounding, the experience is not traumatic. It’s transformational because we stay connected to our spiritual selves.

It opens a door. You’re more aware and it opens a door for exploration and all that.

Consciousness is awake awareness. Consciousness occurs when we have more space around our mind, more space around the sensations in our body, and more space around our emotions. That spaciousness allows us to be at choice with how we want to be with our thoughts, choice at how we want to be with our body and our emotions and the sensations that we’re experiencing rather than being driven by them.

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Consciousness involves choice because you’re more aware. How does that help the nervous system? Trauma does have a big impact on the nervous system.

The word trauma, in the way that I use it, lives on a continuum. There’s something called developmental trauma. As we’re growing and developing our sense of self, anything that we’re needing that we’re not getting from our caregivers can possibly be a trauma that causes us to manipulate our environment to try to get our needs met.

There’s developmental trauma, acute trauma, chronic trauma, and complex trauma. Anytime we experience trauma, our nervous system becomes dysregulated, specifically when it’s in relationship to the people around us, when trauma happens in a relationship. Somebody we thought we were safe with caused us harm or something to that effect. Our conditioned patterns are an attempt at regulation. If I am accommodating, I’m in what’s called the fawn phase of a trauma response. Fight, flight, freeze, fawn, or fix.

I’ve never even heard it that way. You usually hear fight or flight. The fix part is where?

I’m responsible for everybody else. I’m going to take care of everything. It’s common for people who are raised, for example, by alcoholics. They become more of that fixer and that impulse to fix is an attempt at regulating their nervous system so that they can feel safe in order to relax. As long as any of us continue to follow those patterns, we’re keeping ourselves in a state of dysregulation.

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You described my life. Speaking of relationships, having a relationship, and being in a relationship, and the difference between being in an unconscious relationship and being in a conscious relationship, which we can apply to our relationships with our friends, with our relatives, with lovers, with everything.

Many people long for a relationship. They want to have a relationship. Very few people know how to be in a relationship. Having a relationship is essentially the mental construct of, “I have a spouse. I have a partner. I have this best friend,” or whoever I think I have versus when I’m with this person, am I present with them? Am I present with myself?

Am I attending to the space between us? Am I aware of what I want? Am I curious about what they want? Can we meet in that space between if we have different desires? That’s being in a relationship. Being in a relationship is always a present moment. There are no rules. There are no condition patterns to try to get love or to get approval. There’s being with what is.

It’s not manipulative. Even before we knew the term, I was in a conscious relationship with my husband because when we’d even have an argument, we’d both be on the same side of the net. How does this work for both of us and how do we work this? I would hear other people like it was a control thing, who was winning the argument, and all of that. Am I right about that? Is that more of the essence of what it is?

What you’re describing about the other people is an ego relationship. The ego is the part of us that wants to have the relationship. When we have that person, we see them as a separate other. If we don’t want the same thing, we’re on opposite teams. That’s where people start fighting for what they want, forgetting that on the highest level, we all want the same thing. That is to be loved and accepted, heard, and all of that.

Everybody’s going to buy your book, Align: Living and Loving From the True Self. Tell us what inspired you to write it. It’s such an enlightening and wise book and what would you like to share with us about it?

The process of writing Align started all the way back when I was 22 years old. I had that awakening. A book started to come through me and I was taking all the notes. I was going to write it back then, but I had a lot to learn. I had a lot of life experiences that needed to happen for me to be able to embody the message that I am here to teach.

Over twenty-plus years of learning, serving, transforming, and relating to other people in the most loving, conscious way possible, I had a lot of clients and students ask me to write this book. It was still there inside of me. Even though it took twenty years to get to the place to write it, I wrote it quite quickly because I knew the material so deeply.

Align is the combination of the individual work of looking within and being with yourself lovingly and consciously and deepening into contact with yourself and healing your deepest attachment wounds and coming back to wholeness and coming back into alignment with your spiritual self. I believe that our alignment is when our thoughts, our feelings, and our actions are congruent with the truth of who we are. Being aware of when we’re out of alignment is what allows us to come back to alignment. The second half of Align is about bringing that to our relationships. It’s learning how to be in a relationship and to relate to other people from the essence of who we are.

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Do a lot of the people you work with about being in a conscious relationship complain that they have trouble fighting a partner who’s also conscious in relationships? It’s a challenge for a lot of people.

Anytime I hear somebody complain about somebody outside of themselves, it gives me information about them. If they think that nobody out there can meet them the way that they want to be met, I get curious. Are they meeting themselves the way that they want to be met or are they looking to somebody else to do that? I’m very lucky that I live in a part of the country where many people are doing their deeper work of all genders. It’s beautiful to be seeped in such a mecca of personal growth and healing here in Colorado.

Could you explain the difference between living and loving from the condition self and living and loving from the true self? We’re talking about being in a relationship and finding someone who’s aligned with us to live a love from the true self. We’re talking about what that looks like. Is there anything you want to add to that?

A good example of that is if I identify with my conditioned self and tell my husband that I love him, the expression of that love is my desire to try to earn my worth. It’s like I’m wanting to get something from him by telling him that I love him. That’s the condition self, the ego. When I am aligned with my true self and I share with him that I love him, that love is coming from the essence of my heart and it’s unconditional. There’s nothing I need from him in order for that love to be expressed.

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You don’t say it to get something. You say it to express the essence of who you are and what you’re feeling. It’s a difference and vice versa. He would do that with you. Now this is a complex question, but you talk about it. There are five layers of energy around each of us. There are probably a lot of people reading going, “I have layers of energy around me?” There are seven main energy centers within us. How is this energy system a part of our experience of ourselves and others? Most people have no idea that there’s all this extra stuck to us.

When we conceptualize it from the mind, it might seem a little abstract, and even if you’re reading right now, turn towards yourself and sense into your being. You can feel your vitality and your vital force pulsing through you. When our vital force is pulsing through us in alignment where our energy centers are open, then we are vital and alive. We’re in what I call our life urge. We’re fully embodied and here and happy to be so.

The more our vitality flows through the midline of our body, the energy layers that surround us become fuller and more supple, light, and fluffy. Many people have heard about the chakras. There are 7 main energy centers that live within our body, but there are 12 total above and below the body. We don’t talk about them as much because you can’t sense them as energy blocks in the body itself.

The subtle energy around us begins with the layer closest to us, which is the physical self. It’s like if you touch your hands close together, they’re not quite touching. You could feel the heat. That’s what most people are in touch with and identify with. The next layer is the mental and emotional sheath. People are still very in touch with that too.

The layer that senses about other people also if you’re a sensitive person that’s going out to intuit what’s going on.

There are two ways to think about it. One is, if I’m clinging to my physical body and my mental body, those subtle energy bodies are more condensed and less fluid and supple. The more healthy our physical body is, the more healthy our mental body, and the energy starts to get softer moving out and we have more clarity about what other people are feeling and thinking rather than making it about us. There’s more clarity there.

The next layer is the vital force. When we’re vital, that vital sheath gets alive and electric. There’s the wisdom sheath and then lastly, the bliss body, the bliss sheath. The more our whole energy system is moving fluidly, the more we can access pleasure and bliss in our body without any effort, without any work. We simply are in that bliss and that pleasure.

It sounds like a place every single person should want to be. That brings us to the question of how do the vibrations of our subtle energy body become mistuned by life and form blockages, which is what’s happening to most of the people walking around the planet? What happens for us and for them when we release those internal blockages that have been erected that are holding back these energy bodies so that we cannot fuel this bliss?

Anytime we have an experience that was painful or traumatic, that we’re unable to process and integrate in a way that feels clear, healthy, and true to us, our body and our energy body holds that as a memory. The blockages and the misattunement of life happen based on the experiences that we’ve had. Also, it’s important to remember that we live in a system that isn’t designed for our health and well-being.

The systems at play in the larger society are designed to keep us thinking that our looks are what matter or how we are to other people is what matters or that type of thing. To recognize that there are so many known and unknown ways in which our energy can get mistuned allows us to see with more clarity how we want to be with that. What is the choice that we want to make in relation to that?

 

 

It sounds like you’re talking about people who are more concerned about their looks or those types of qualities. If they’re going to heal, it’s about fostering acceptance of themselves for all that they are, and not with qualification, which brings about self-love. Tell us about that. Why is healing, self-love, and acceptance necessary for the healing of our planet, global transformation, and planetary restoration?

First, to answer your question about self-love, I love this question because I see so often that people have a misconception around self-love. In order to like love myself, I need to push back through the parts of myself that I don’t like and to come back to love. It can become a bypass in ways. The way that I see it is that any layer of our awareness that has our attention deserves love. Any part of our human experience deserves our love simply because it’s here.

If, for example, a person has the sensation of a lump in their throat, and I invite them to bring love and awareness to that lump, and without trying to change it or fix it, see it in the most welcoming, loving, compassionate way, be curious about why it’s here and what it needs from oneself at that moment. If a person begins to do that and they start thinking, “I’m so mad that I still have this. Why is this here?” That then becomes the layer that needs love.

The part that’s angry or upset that their body is holding it this way now becomes the focus of love. I see that you want this to move and I love you. The voice of self-judgment comes. “Why aren’t I healed yet? I’ve been working on myself for so long.” Now we bring love to the voice of self-judgment. Whatever is there in the awareness field, we expand our capacity to be loving and compassionate with ourselves. In doing so, many things happen. One is we become a secure base for ourselves. We stop looking at other people to be the source of our acceptance and our belonging. We become that for ourselves.

When we do that, we connect more with our spiritual self because it is our spiritual self that has the capacity to love every part of our humanity. The ego does not. The ego wants to fix, change, push aside, resist, or cling. The more we can love ourselves in this way, despite nature, we become more loving and compassionate with other people.

 

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The paradox becomes the more connected I am with myself, the more able I am to connect with that part of humanity where there is no other, where we are in oneness. Any part of humanity that I think is bad or wrong or disgusting or dark, and I can’t believe that anybody would be that way, I can have the most tender compassion for that person and simultaneously recognize that I too have that dark shadow inside of me somewhere.

This is where the healing of the planet begins to start moving. The more my vital force is flowing through me with love and the more access I have to my spiritual self, the more love there is on the planet. The more love there is on the planet, the more that domino effect or the butterfly effect starts to bubble out. The love spreads. Let’s say I’m more kind to the grocer who is bagging my groceries and they become more kind to the next person. That love does spread.

We’re talking about accepting these people and living beyond the yuckiness of who they are. The grocer’s bagging your groceries and he’s being nasty and mean to you in the store. How do you process that to convert that to this consciousness of love, acceptance, and healing? How do you process that at the moment when you encounter an individual like that?

For me, from my heart, recognizing that that person’s hurting, that if I personalize their action and I make it about being right or wrong, then I’m offended. If I can see that that person is hurting and they don’t know how to be with their hurt, but I can be compassionate and kind to their hurt because I have such a deep practice of being compassionate and kind to my hurt.

If this little boy that this man was mean to were crying, instead of personalizing it, “You shouldn’t have done this or that. You made him mad,” you could put your arm around him and say, “This man has problems and it has nothing to do with you, honey.”

It’s a little bit more complex than that because, for the child, I would validate, “It makes sense to me that you don’t like that. That was hurtful for you.” I can see the other person and the person who is unkind and, “I can see that you’re hurting.” I’m not trying to place anybody in a box or categorize them with a label. I’m seeing them for their humanity of who they are.

What you’re doing is helping this little child not to make it into a trauma. Now everyone wants to sign up. Tell us about your six-month course to become a spiritually aligned practitioner, your couples, families, and leadership course, and your standalone mini-courses which sound fabulous.

I’m excited about these courses. They’re new and training therapists and coaches on how to facilitate spiritual alignment is such a delight. It’s beautiful in so many ways. Partly recognizing that all clinicians, all people who are called to the work to be of service can sense an intuition in a deeper way than they might even be able to recognize in themselves. Teaching them how to access their sensitivities in service of healing and in service of the work that they’re here to do on the planet is exciting. In that six-month course, I teach the basics of holding sacred space. I teach some Gestalt. I teach Gestalt Transpersonal Counseling at Naropa. There is some Gestalt Theory involved.

Define Gestalt Theory.

Gestalt Theory essentially means that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. When we are working through a Gestalt lens, we are seeing the wholeness of our clients and recognizing that everything that they say in one session contributes to the wholeness of who they are. That’s a very simplistic way of saying it, but it’s a very present-moment transpersonal approach to healing.

What do you do with couples and families? You also have a leadership course.

Once somebody has taken that signature course, they have the opportunity to continue studying with me to learn how to guide spiritually aligned relationships and to understand the family system and the spiritual alignment that’s possible there also, to step into leadership in a way that is fully aligned with who they are and what they’re here to offer the world.

I would imagine anyone who learns to be a leader through your course is going to be a different kind of leader who will get tremendous results from their people because it’s not ego-driven. It’s so much more. You have these standalone mini-courses.

There are a lot of standalone mini-courses and all of the courses have a trauma-informed component to them. The standalone mini-courses are offshoots of the larger course. For example, there’s trauma and spirituality, and I’m working with subtle energy and several others. There are so many of them. I can’t think of them all right now. They’re little bite-sized pieces for people who don’t want to take the full training but who want to learn something.

Your mini-courses are a wonderful appetizer. They can take a mini course, get an appetizer, and say, “I want to learn. I think I’m going to savor the entrée now.”

I also offer group coaching for therapists and clinicians because I do believe that creating community and a shared support network in this work is important for our well-being.

Do you have an offer for our audience?

Yes. I have a 20% off of the Live Your Alignment course. This is a course for everybody and it teaches you how to be in your fullest expression while also honoring the people around you.

We’ll make sure that everyone can easily connect to that offer. What is the Harmony Kwiker tip for finding joy in life, which is going to be terrific? I know it.

I had this moment in my transformation where I realized that I thought that by being given the name Harmony, it was my job to be okay with everything. I thought that that’s what Harmony meant. I then had this epiphany that true harmony has the ability to unify all things, the shadow, the joy, and the full range of humanity. My tip for living a joyous life is to welcome every single thing that you experience about yourself with so much love and happiness that your humanity is alive and well.

Harmony, thank you so much. I love this great quote from your enlightening and wise book Align: Living and Loving From the True Self. “When I am in alignment, I honor myself, stay embodied, voice my truth, and move from my essential self. From alignment, my life flows where I feel the rightness of being alive. From this place, my relationships flourish.”

 

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Harmony, I join you in wishing this blessed alignment for everyone. Thank you for bringing conscious awareness of the need for healing, self-love, and acceptance in our world, which will lead to the healing of the planet, global transformation, and planetary restoration. I thank you from my heart for an interview that has surely inspired many to consciously heal and transform their lives so they can live and love from their authentic selves. Thank you so much. Make sure to follow us and like us on social at @IreneSWeinberg on Instagram, Facebook, and wherever you get your shows. As I like to say, to be continued. Many blessings and bye for now. Thank you so much, Harmony. This has been wonderful.

Thank you.

 

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About Harmony Kwiker

GAR 228 | Spiritual AlignmentHarmony Kwiker, MA, is a psychotherapist, author, and professor at Naropa University, where she teaches transpersonal counseling. She is also the founder of the Institute for Spiritual Alignment where she trains practitioners to bridge the divide between traditional and spiritual transformation.

In her first book, Reveal: Embody the True Self Beyond Trauma and Conditioning, Harmony does what most experts rarely do—she vulnerably shares her story of transformation while simultaneously empowering readers to discover their truest selves. Her new book, Align: Living and Loving from the True Self is now available.

 

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