GAR 205 | Practicing Gratitude

 

Dr. Peggy DeLong is an accomplished psychologist, author, speaker, and grief therapist. She is known as The Gratitude Psychologist because she teaches people how to harness the power of gratitude and joy to live their best lives, especially through difficult times. She does this through psychotherapy, her group program for healing grief called HEAL, her online monthly membership called Feeling Good with Dr. Peggy, online courses, and speaking engagements. She is also the author of three books, and she is the owner of LOVE in a Bracelet, where she designs bracelets for coping with grief and loss, mental health, and inspiration.

 

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL HEAR ABOUT THINGS LIKE:

  • The inspiring ways the death of both Peggy’s beloved fiancé and her precious dad were connected.
  • The spiritual signs Peggy receives every year on the anniversary of her fiancé’s death.
  • How harnessing the power of gratitude and joy heals grief, bereavement, and loss.
  • The practice of gratitude is backed by research in psychology and brain science.

 

SOME QUESTIONS IRENE ASKS PEGGY:

  • Why should we allow ourselves to feel unwanted and painful emotions?
  • What are some of the benefits to be gained by developing a gratitude mindset?
  • Why is practicing gratitude a universal healer?

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Dr. Peggy DeLong: You Have The Power To Create Your Own Happiness By Harnessing The Power Of Gratitude And Joy To Live Your Best Life, Especially Through Difficult Times

 

 

 

 

 

I hope this finds each of you so very well. I’m speaking to you from my studio in West Orange, New Jersey. I’m delighted to have this opportunity to reintroduce all of you to the incredibly wise Dr. Peggy DeLong who is an accomplished psychologist, author, speaker, and grief therapist. Peggy is known as the gratitude psychologist because she teaches people how to harness the power of gratitude and joy to live their best lives, especially through difficult times.

She does this through psychotherapy, her group program for healing grief called Heal, her online monthly membership called Feeling Good with Dr. Peggy, online courses, and speaking engagements. She’s also the author of three books titled I Can See Clearly Now: A Memoir about Love, Grief, and Gratitude, Gratitude Journal, a 365-day gratitude journey, and Feeling Good: 35 Proven Ways to Happiness, Even During Tough Times.

She’s the Owner of Love In A Bracelet where she designs bracelets for coping with grief and loss, mental health, and inspiration. Peggy and I had a terrific interview about our healing bracelets a few years ago. That is why I said I have to reintroduce you to this wonderful, terrific, and wise lady again. She will be speaking to us from Long Valley, New Jersey about the healing power of gratitude.

I’m looking forward to talking with Peggy about harnessing the power of gratitude and joy to heal grief, bereavement, and loss, spiritual signs she has received from her deceased father and fiance, why she says there is no such thing as a negative emotion, her five daily exercises and gratitude for healing grief, and more for a sure to be a comforting, insightful, and very feel-good interview. Peggy, I should start by saying I’m grateful to be with you.

Thank you so much for having me, Irene.

GAR 205 | Practicing Gratitude

Let’s start everyone off with your inspiring story about the ways the deaths of both your beloved fiance and your precious dad were connected, including remembering dad’s last run and celebrating his happy skiing so we can introduce something. What started you on this path?

What started me on this path was a tragedy. When I was 26 years old, my fiance was diagnosed with cancer. It was a very aggressive form of cancer. They told us he had about a 15% chance of survival. I thought if anybody could beat this, it was him. He had already survived a horrific car accident. He was in a coma for three weeks. He was struck by lightning. I thought if anybody could beat it, it was him.

Unfortunately, it was an aggressive form. He passed away seven months later. It was during his last days in the hospital when I discovered the power of gratitude through a simple cup of hazelnut coffee when my world was turned upside down and when I felt like my future was dying with him. I sat by his side when the doctor said there was nothing left that they could do for him.

Every day was filled with so much unpredictability, but the one predictable thing was that I could get a cup of hazelnut coffee. All of the visitors would leave at 8:00 PM. I was allowed to stay. I would sip that hazelnut coffee and write in my journal. It brought me so much comfort. At the time, I couldn’t understand why. Now, I know that what I was doing was practicing gratitude for something so simple and predictable when everything else was unpredictable.

Unfortunately, he passed away at the age of 27. I went back home to live with my parents. I couldn’t bear to live in the apartment that he and I had shared. Thankfully, my parents were nearby. I was grateful for that time with my parents because suddenly, my father died six weeks later. They were very close. My father felt like he lost a son, not a son-in-law or a future son-in-law but a son. They were so close. It was so much for my father to bear seeing me in so much pain and his pain.

He died of a broken heart. He had some heart trouble and didn’t want to do much about it. He wanted to live his life. He went to heal his wounds and went skiing. He always told me that he wanted to die on a chairlift. He thought that was where he felt closest to God, breathing in the cool mountain air. Two weeks before he passed away, he told me that was the way that he wanted to die. He went on a trip to Vermont by himself and passed away on a chairlift from a sudden heart attack.

Is there something about celebrating his happy skiing? That was a great story.

Whatever he did, he exuded happiness. He would run around my high school track on his days off and act like Rocky, punching the air and doing twirls. He skied that way. He skied with his arms outstretched, doing giant sweeping turns across the mountain. We called it happy skiing. He exuded happiness. People could identify him by his skiing or by his style. After he died, we knew that it was a heart attack. At the time, I was so in deep grief from my fiance and my father that I didn’t think about the details. I didn’t need to know anymore until something hit me. I wanted to know more.

I posted in a Facebook group for Okemo Mountain to see if anybody was there that day and if anybody could provide me with any details. Sure enough, because of his happy skiing, people remembered who he was. It was a tragic day for Okemo Mountain, but people remembered. One ski patroller even sent me the original digital copy of the newspaper article about my father’s passing, which detailed exactly what ski patrol did after he died in getting him off the chairlift and what run they took him down. I had skied that run before, but I didn’t know that it was my father’s last run. I returned to the mountain with purpose and skied that last run. We call it dad’s last run.

That’s a beautiful story. It sounds like your father lived his life even his passion for skiing with gratitude. He could do that all the time. Even that was a precursor to what you do. You get spiritual signs every year on the anniversary of your fiance’s death. You received a special message from a medium about your current husband. Do you want to tell us? I introduced you to the spiritual world.

I was thrown into the spiritual world. After they passed away, I needed answers. I had never experienced grief before, and then all of a sudden, the two most important men in my life in one year died. I was on a mission to search for any answers. I got my hands on anything spiritual, any book, or any type of healing. It was so helpful for me in my healing. Every year, without fail on the anniversary of my fiance’s passing, our wedding song comes on the radio.

It then became his funeral song. It’s the title of my book, I Can See Clearly Now. We thought that he would be in remission and make it to our wedding date. Unfortunately, he didn’t, but the lyrics of the song seemed appropriate, celebrating being in remission. Ironically, the words were also appropriate for his funeral. It was moving. I had two high school friends sing and play guitar at his funeral. When I was thinking about a title for my memoir, it was a perfect title.

It plays on the radio. Music is my way to remain connected to him. Sometimes it’s that song. Sometimes I hear the song that made him call me after we hadn’t spoken in a year. He heard Sister Golden Hair by the band America on the radio. It made him think of me and call me. We went on that date. That was the beginning of our courtship and becoming engaged.

When I saw the medium, I saw three, but one of them, in particular, was talking about my future. She kept repeating the name John throughout the session. She said, “Do you know a John? There’s a John around you. There’s going to be a John in your life.” At the time, I wasn’t close with any John, so I was starting to get annoyed. I’m like, “I don’t know a John.” She said at the very end, “You are going to marry a John, and he’s going to be a teacher.” I ended up meeting a man whose name was John, but he wasn’t a teacher. I thought, “She’s half right,” but then sure enough, my husband changed careers and became a teacher. She was 100% right. I married a teacher named John.

Is this stuff real? Is there something to all this? What inspires you to become a gratitude psychologist? How does harnessing the power of gratitude and joy helped to heal grief, bereavement, and loss? We talk a lot about grief, coping with grief, and all of that. It almost seems too simple to be true with all those deep and intense feelings. If you’re grateful for something, that’s going to help you move through the devastation that you’re feeling.

GAR 205 | Practicing Gratitude

I always say that I look at it twofold. First, it’s to allow yourself to feel the pain and the depth of the grief. Gratitude is one way to move forward to not get stuck in that gut-wrenching pain, but first, we must feel. I don’t believe in immediately stuffing feelings and going to the positive. We need to feel the grief first. I stumbled upon gratitude. I considered myself an ungrateful teen and young adult. When I look back on my life, that’s my only regret. I was not more grateful sooner. I didn’t appreciate what I had in my life until everything had turned upside down.

I felt like I lost my future when my fiance passed away. I felt like part of my childhood died with my father. It was through that cup of hazelnut coffee, and then it extended to everything. As a psychologist, when I started learning about the science behind gratitude, then it became even more powerful for me. I trusted that, whether it worked for me and my clients, but as a psychologist, I love the science behind the power of gratitude, what it does in our brains, and how it truly helps us to see the world in a different way. It doesn’t make our problems go away, but it can be enough of a shift to have a better day and for everything to feel a little bit lighter.

Tell us about that science, Peggy. They have done the research. When someone says, “Thank you,” their brain changes. How does that work?

Immediately when we’re practicing gratitude, we get a dose of neurotransmitters in our brain that are responsible for elevating mood, particularly serotonin, and dopamine. Serotonin is the neurotransmitter that’s responsible for the satiated feeling after a good meal or a wonderful conversation with a good friend. When we are practicing gratitude, we’re saying to the universe, “I have enough of something.” We get that dose of serotonin and dopamine that helps us to feel good.

On top of that, we have functional MRIs or brain scans that show that when we practice gratitude on a regular basis, we are forming new neural pathways to be more positive thinkers. That takes a little bit more time, but the great thing is it feels good along the way, and then it makes you want to do it even more. The beautiful part about gratitude is that over the course of time, it truly does become effortless. You see the world in a different way. That is another part of the brain doing its job.

The Reticular Activating System, otherwise known as the RAS, works as a filtering system. It helps us to pay attention to the things that matter to us and pay less attention or not even notice the things that bother us. We get to tell it what to pay attention to. When we practice gratitude, it’s telling our brains, “Pay attention to the good. Notice the good. Highlight the good. Don’t pay attention to what annoys you.” It truly helps you to see the world through a different lens. That translates to happiness and joy.

That’s fascinating. The fact that it’s backed by science is amazing. Your latest book is titled Feeling Good: 35 Proven Ways to Happiness, Even During Tough Times. People are saying, “How can I be happy during these terrible times?” What would you like to tell us about your book? How is accepting that life is not fair somehow connected to finding meaning in life?

The book comes out of the question that I have received my whole life, and that is, “What do you do to be so happy?” Even after my fiance and my father died, I continued to get that question. It had a little bit of a different flare to it. It was more like, “How are you not falling apart?” I still had joy in my life, so I thought, “What do I do to give people this impression?” I thought long and hard about it and came up with 35 different things that I do that take very little time or energy.

These are things that work when we’re grief-stricken or when our finances and our energy levels are low and take very little time or energy because that’s when we need them the most. Most of these come from simple things that I did in my childhood when I was 8 or 10 years old and then kept on doing them. I knew intuitively what to do that made me feel better and then simply kept doing them. It’s not rocket science. I know that crafting makes me feel good. I know that going for a walk and getting fresh air makes me feel good. I know that time spent with my best friend elevates my mood with consistency and nature. Nature is one of the most predictable healers.

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Each chapter is a different simple idea or thing that works when we’re feeling low. The one about accepting that life is not fair came from my father. That was one of my father’s favorite phrases, “Life isn’t fair.” He said it in a very loving way. It wasn’t a mean get-over-it way because it was always followed up by the question, “What are you going to do about it?” I didn’t get stuck in the unfairness of it all because that’s not helpful. It’s important to feel sorry for yourself. Allow yourself to wallow a little bit, but don’t get stuck there. Follow up with the question, “What am I going to do about it?”

How am I going to navigate my next step?

When we accept that life is not fair, that’s how it is for everybody. Nobody gets through life unscathed. Everybody has something they’re dealing with at one point or another. When we get into the comparison game or feel that it’s unfair, it’s simply not helpful. It doesn’t help us grow and learn what we can do to feel better. That’s the first chapter in my book because it’s important for all the other 34 chapters to grasp that.

You’re accepting that life isn’t fair, “What are you going to do about it?” It’s about finding some meaning to what’s going on.

It’s finding meaning and making the most of it. I give the example of how my father grew up in Union City, New Jersey, with two parents who didn’t have a whole lot of money. They couldn’t pay their bills, so they took in a tenant. They had a two-bedroom apartment, and they took in a tenant. My father was an only child. That meant that the tenant got my father’s bedroom. My father’s bedroom was a closet.

As a young child, he made the most of that closet. He would tell me how he would set up a flashlight or a lamp, use his feet to make the clothes move and watch the shadows. He entertained himself in that little closet. He has always been a wonderful person for finding the silver lining, but it comes out of his experiences of poverty and overcoming poverty throughout his childhood that taught me what to do when we think that life isn’t fair.

You talk about how there’s no such thing as a negative emotion, but nobody wants to feel unwanted and painful emotions. Would you make sense of how there is such a thing that feels like a negative emotion? Explain yourself.

I avoid calling it negative because when we call our painful emotions negative, it makes us not want to feel them. Who would want to feel grief, disappointment, or betrayal? When we don’t feel those emotions, we are shutting ourselves off from joy. The depth and our capacity to experience sorrow are in direct proportion to our capacity to experience joy. When we shut ourselves off to sadness, we are unwittingly shutting ourselves off to joy. It’s emotionally numbing. It’s very similar if you’re having surgery and you need general anesthesia. You don’t get to pick and choose what body parts go numb. You just don’t feel. The same thing happens with our emotions.

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We don’t get to shut off emotional pain. When we do, we become numb. We also don’t get to experience joy. Whenever I’m talking about methods of positive psychology, I always like to mention that it’s always after we have allowed ourselves to feel the pain that the healing takes place in the feeling, whether that’s sorrow, grief, or betrayal. The methods of positive psychology work to move through it or any other method of healing, reiki, and all sorts of things. I truly believe that we need to feel first.

It’s important not to push your emotions aside. You feel your emotions. You’re in a way dealing with them and moving toward that gratitude to find something to up your vibration in what you’re going through. Let’s talk about the gratitude mindset. What is that going to do for everyone if they adopt a gratitude mindset instead of being bitter and annoyed throughout the day? They’re looking for things. What does that do for them?

The brain does the workforce. That’s what I love. It starts with intention. It has to be a desire. I wasn’t looking for gratitude. I am so grateful that I stumbled upon it during my tragedy. It happened naturally. I wasn’t seeking it. It happened with that hazelnut coffee, but for most people, it starts with an intention or a desire. When practiced regularly, the brain picks up and does its job. The Reticular Activating System kicks in. You truly start to see the world in a different way. It’s magical how it happens. I love that the brain science behind it shows that.

In addition to brain science, I believe there’s tremendous power in self-report or psychological research that involves people’s self-report and people reporting that their lives have completely transformed by practicing gratitude and simple things like writing gratitude letters. One study looked at 300 college students who were diagnosed with clinical depression. They were instructed to write gratitude letters to people. They reported a significant boost in mood, not just at the 4-week mark but that it was maintained at the 12-week mark simply by writing gratitude letters.

It’s one of the most powerful things that we can do for ourselves. The great thing is it feels good at the moment by getting that dose of serotonin and dopamine. It feels good while we’re doing it. When we have daily practice, it helps us to see the world in a different way, elevate mood, decrease the stress hormone, cortisol, and provide a sense of relaxation. It doesn’t make our problems go away, but it helps us to see the world differently, to feel better, and to pay more attention to our blessings.

It makes for a happier person. I would think that’s the shorthand. I know that you have five daily exercises in gratitude that can be done in less than five minutes a day that help to heal grief. Would you like to go over them with us?

I love speaking about gratitude. I picked five of my favorites that take people from the first seconds upon awakening in the morning to when the head hits the pillow at the end of the day. Particularly, I believe this is helpful for grief because that’s how I found gratitude and used gratitude. I know that it helped me and helps my clients. It works for anybody, but it’s particularly powerful when we’re going through a difficult time.

The very first exercise is simply to say the words, “Thank you,” out loud when you wake up, not even to be thankful or thinking about what you’re grateful for. It’s the power of language by saying those two words, “Thank you.” The reason this is so helpful and powerful is that all of our lives, those two words, “Thank you,” are associated with positivity. We don’t thank people for crummy things. We thank people for nice things. Automatically, the brain gets primed for positivity.

It can be enough of a shift to focus your brain on something positive by saying thank you rather than the worries of the day creeping in, your to-do list, or the heaviness of whatever problem you might be facing. It’s enough to put that at bay and to start the day on a lighter note before your feet hit the floor. That takes two seconds. That’s exercise one. The next exercise is to set your intention at the beginning of the morning to be more aware of your blessings and to be more grateful during the day. This can be done in the shower or while brushing your teeth. It doesn’t need to take any more time.

While you’re brushing your teeth, you can be grateful for the fact that you have teeth.

Toothpaste and a toothbrush. It might sound silly, but our brain can’t tell whether we’re grateful for toothpaste or that we have a car. As human beings, we assign meaning to that, but our brains can’t tell the difference. When we highlight that something small is worthy of gratitude, it makes it feel good. Our brain can’t distinguish the difference. Exercise number two is harnessing the power of the Reticular Activating System by setting your intention at the beginning of the day to be more aware of your blessings.

It doesn’t need to take more time. This could simply look like while you’re in the shower or brushing your teeth, saying to yourself or out loud, “I’m going to be more aware of my blessings. I’m going to pay more attention to all of the great things in my life and less attention to the things that annoy me.” It’s a simple statement of how your language sounds good to you. I like to use the doorframe of my bedroom as a reminder, asking myself, “Have I set my intention yet?” Once we step out that door, there are all the other responsibilities. The dog needs to be fed. The bills have to be paid. The trash has to go out.

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Before we leave the bedroom, that’s our sacred special time. It’s setting the intention. This works for anything, whether you’re trying to drink more water, be kinder, or whatever it is. When you set your intention at the beginning of the morning, it increases the likelihood of that happening through the power of the Reticular Activating System. You’re telling your brain, “This is important to me. Pay attention.” We have done exercises 1 and 2. It’s taken still about two seconds because it’s not extra time.

I like this. What’s next?

Number three is my favorite. That is to express appreciation every day for one person. It can be in a text, email, phone call, FaceTime, handwritten letter, or whatever feels good for you. You could change it up every day, but make a point to express appreciation every single day for one person. The reason this is powerful is that the number one factor that predicts happiness in life is our human relationships. By expressing gratitude for somebody, you are increasing closeness. You’re fostering closeness in a relationship. You never know if that’s going to bring you when you connect with somebody.

I reached out to my third-grade teacher. We found each other on Facebook. I reached out to her and sent her a note. Now, she and I get together at least once a year for lunch simply by writing a letter of thanks and letting her know how much she meant to me. You never know where a gratitude letter is going to take you. In a time where loneliness is truly an epidemic, anytime that you spend fostering your human relationships is time well spent.

The research shows that the person expressing gratitude is the one who receives more of a boost in mood than the one you’re expressing it to. In a way, you can consider it selfish by expressing gratitude because truly you get the bigger boost than the person receiving. It’s one way that we can take control of our happiness and make somebody else feel good in the process.

Your example with your teacher is perfect. I can’t get over that you even remembered your third-grade teacher.

She was very special. The fourth exercise speaks to what I was saying before. There’s no such thing as a negative emotion. This exercise is to use your emotional pain during the day as a trigger to practice gratitude. If you’re in traffic and you’re feeling frustrated that you’re stuck and you’re going to be missing an appointment, allow yourself to feel that frustration, but then use it as a trigger to practice gratitude. It’s thinking about the gratitude for having that car or those people.

Feel the pain and then use that as a trigger to find the silver lining if there’s a lesson in whatever you’re experiencing. Sometimes that can be difficult, especially involving loss and grief. It can be hard to see anything positive. What I like to encourage people to do in those times is to look at the underlying value. For example, we’re experiencing grief because we value love and human relationships. We might experience guilt in parenting because we value being a present parent.

The pain is related to a value. Uncover what that value is, celebrate it, and find a way to practice it. That’s one way to put into practice exercise number four, to use emotional pain as a trigger to practice gratitude. Number five is right at bedtime when your head hits the pillow, reflect upon your day and think about two things that happened that day that you’re grateful for. Keep it focused on that day, not a week before or a year before. Focus on that day. The reason is what happens the next day.

It feels good at that moment as you’re recalling those events, but the magic happens the next day. When you hold yourself accountable, then as you’re going through your next day, you will highlight and notice more good things because you know you’re going to hold yourself accountable at bedtime. Something happens, and then you bank it in your brain and think, “That’s a good one. I’m going to remember that at bedtime.” It helps you connect more to the present and notice more wonderful things and highlight them. You get to experience more joy by doing that. You get another dose of it at bedtime by recalling it.

It’s also a nice way to fall asleep because we tend to bring into our sleep what we last talked about, thought about, or read. We can’t control what’s on the news or what we see on Instagram, but we can control our thoughts. Focusing on two nice things that happened that day is one way to help facilitate more restful sleep. It’s also a wonderful activity to engage in at 3:00 in the morning when you wake up with any worrying thoughts. Unfortunately, when people have any type of worry or difficulty going on in their lives, it tends to be 3:00 in the morning. Those worried thoughts keep us awake. One way to help get back to sleep is to focus on gratitude.

That’s great advice. They’re so easy to do. You also have a five-week group program for widows called Heal coping with grief and loss. It’s just for females. It’s not for men.

I’m hoping to expand in the future, but for now, I’m working solely with widows.

In what ways does Heal help with mental health and personal development? Are you doing all of this online?

It’s all online. We meet weekly. For the five weeks, I use each of those gratitude exercises that I mentioned as the framework for the week. Every day participants receive one simple method for healing grief. It comes with a video and a downloadable sheet to help put it into action. I give resources for podcasts, books, and meditations to help put that idea into practice because the healing takes place in two things, in the feeling but then also in the doing. I like to inspire people, but it needs to go further than that and take action. I provide within the program Heal simple things that people can do to take action to heal.

You’re stuck in a lot of ways. You’re giving them baby steps to move forward.

They’re all things that I did during my grief that worked for me and that are backed by research in psychology.

That’s great. Peggy, you have an online monthly membership called Feeling Good with Peggy. It sounds good. Tell us about that. Is there anything else you want to mention to us?

Feeling Good with Peggy is the online companion program that goes with my book. Every month, we have a theme. I deliver email inspirations with videos. It’s very similar to Heal in that it comes with lessons to put into action to tell people, “Take action.” I end every email with a sheet. The end of this section says, “Take action.” You can’t miss it. It’s giving people simple ways for feeling good, including everything that’s in the book, the 35 Proven Ways to Happiness.

What is your special offer for our audience?

My special offer is a downloadable sheet to help people put into action those five daily exercises that I mentioned. It’s right on my homepage. It’s a popup on my homepage that’s very easy to find. It will be right there on the website, DrPeggyDeLong.com. You can also go to DrPeggyDeLong.com/grief and fill out the form. It will be emailed to you right away. You can download that sheet and put those five ideas into action right away starting tomorrow.

Why would you say that practicing gratitude is a universal healer? Why is it so important that people should heal and do their healing work?

I’ll start with the first one. It’s a universal healer because gratitude truly is accessible to all of us at any second or any minute. Even when we think that we don’t have anything to be grateful for, we truly do. When we find it and uncover that, it helps us to feel better. I love that gratitude is accessible to all. It’s free. It makes us feel good at the moment. When we practice on a regular basis, it truly has positive consequences for long-term positive mental health. I always say, “Don’t wait for your good days to practice gratitude. Gratitude is truly most powerful on your most difficult days.”

Can you imagine if the world lived in gratitude?

It would be a wonderful place but also the way gratitude works is that I see all of the good. There are lots of horrible things going on out there. I don’t ignore that they’re not happening, but I choose to focus my energy on the things that are going well in life and donating to positive causes, and spending time with people with positive energy. That’s the way gratitude works. It starts to fill your life with good. It doesn’t change the fact that there are horrible things going on in the world, but it makes all of that feel less heavy. You’re inspired to give in a way to address those problems.

How does allowing ourselves to feel the so-called negative emotions help us find joy in life?

I view it as a prerequisite that we truly need to feel our pain to experience joy. It involves a tremendous amount of trust and faith that it will come. During grief, I remember when I didn’t believe that I could be happy. Slowly, joy started to creep back in, but I intuitively knew that I needed to face my grief head on, feel it, not ignore it, allow myself to feel the heaviness of it all, and trust that when I did that slowly every day, I would be able to experience more joy. If I didn’t allow myself to feel, I would be shutting myself off to joy.

If you do not feel painful emotions, you wouldn’t be able to feel wonderful emotions either.

It involves a tremendous amount of trust that it will happen.

That’s great. Peggy, you continue to change lives in simple and meaningful ways that help people live their very best lives even when they’re going through difficult times. You’re a wonderful role model and a gift to so many. Thank you from my heart for another comforting, insightful, and feel-good interview with you. Make sure to follow us and like us because we know you do on social at @IreneSWeinberg on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter. If you’re watching on YouTube, please be sure to subscribe below, so you will never miss an episode. As I like to say in my positive and grateful way, to be continued. Many blessings. Bye for now.

 

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About Dr. Peggy DeLong

GAR 205 | Practicing GratitudeDr. Peggy DeLong is a psychologist, known as The Gratitude Psychologist. She teaches people how to harness the power of gratitude and joy to live their best lives, especially through difficult times. She does this through psychotherapy, her group program for healing grief HEAL, her online monthly membership Feeling Good with Dr. Peggy, online courses, speaking engagements, books, and bracelets.

Peggy is the author of I Can See Clearly Now: A Memoir about Love, Grief, and Gratitude, The Gratitude Journal: A 365-Day Gratitude Journey, and Feeling Good: 35 Proven Ways to Happiness, Even During Tough Times. She is also the owner of LOVE in a Bracelet, where she designs bracelets for coping with grief and loss, mental health, and inspiration.

She hosts women’s hiking events for spiritual growth and personal development. When she’s not focused on her businesses, you’ll find Peggy with her husband and three children in the mountains, downhill or telemark skiing, kayaking, hiking, or mountain biking.

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“I have enjoyed your podcast for quite a while. Even when grief can bring us to our knees, it can also be that the light that shows a new path moving forward. You are such a living and shining example of that. Thank you for blessing us with your down-to-earth and loving sense of humor. Your stories and those of the people on your podcast bring so much knowledge and hope.”

Kim Caswell
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